10 Things About You That Will Change When You Lose Your Parents.
We never realise our parents are human beings until it's too late. We grow up thinking of them as invincible. But then we grow up, and we forget that they're ageing, too.
Before we know it, we're watching our superheroes turn into old people we don't even recognise. We're too afraid to say anything but we know that one day, they won't be here anymore.
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There are many things you'll wish you would have said when your parents were still around to hear them. Here are 10 things you'll face after your parents are gone. Learn from these lessons and change your life now. You don't have to wait until your parents are gone to appreciate them.
1. You'll realise how much you loved them.
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That's the irony of loss. You only realise how deeply you loved someone until they aren't there anymore.
2. You'll still want to call them when something happens.
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Sometimes, you may get your phone out and only realise as you're about to hit "Call" that they aren't here anymore.
3. You'll learn secrets.
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You'll uncover details about your parents' lives that make you uncomfortable. You'll realise that they were actually people, not just parents, and you won't know how to handle that because you can't tell them.
4. Holidays are Lonely
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Even if you have a spouse or even kids of your own, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Christmas and all the other holidays feel a bit empty.
5. You will be jealous of anyone who has parents to spend time with.
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You'll envy anyone who gets to go home for the holidays. You'll mentally curse anyone who complains about having to spend time with their parents for any reason.
6. The sadness never leaves.
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You will cry just as much as you did the day they died sometimes. The pain changes with time, but it's never gone.
7. You'll won't be able to listen to people complain about their nagging parents again.
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You'd give anything to have your mom call you up and nag you one more time.
8. You'll feel loss for the grandchildren and great-grandchildren they'll never meet.
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The family photos you won't get to take, the holidays you'll never spend together ... lifetimes of memories you have not been able to have, will flood your brain.
9. You won't be able to move for a long time.
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You'll feel physically sick, and you'll wish more than anything that your mom or dad were there to make you soup and take care of you.
10. You will understand the importance of family more.
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No one else is ever going to love you so unconditionally. No matter how often you felt they judged you, they never turned you away, did they? We used to scoff when they'd say, "I only want the best for you." Now we know they meant it.
If you have lost your parents, you'll understand what it's like to miss them every day. They may no longer be here, but they'll always live on in you. As we grow up and lose our parents, some of us sooner than others, we change. We learn to appreciate the little moments with our own kids more, and hopefully, the memories we make will comfort them when they're in our shoes. What lessons did you learn after losing your parents? Let us know - and make sure to pass this on to your friends to remind them to show their, parents, some love.
8 comments:
Wow....so true
SO VERY TRUE THANK YOU FOR SHARING.
Yes very true
Very true I’ve been thru all that
Very true I’ve been thru all that! I still miss them it’s like you lost the Home you grown up, If they still where there I would go back Home!
It's 100% very true you miss their voice you missed calling them or them calling you when you get home from work. It's even the worst is when you lose them in January of this year I lost my grandparents on both sides of the family and my father and I wish I could just pick up a phone and ask him if he wants to meet up for lunch or something and I can't do it no more it's the first Father's Day I won't be to go get him new clothes and new shoes and take them out to eat it really hurts. But at least I got the family home that I grew up in and was raised in to make new memories with my own family but I still miss mine and wish that he was able to see my kids grow he would have been an awesome grandfather and my grandparents on both sides would have been great grandparents.
I'm coming from a very different place than most people who have lost their parents.
Most people who have lost their parents are mature adults with children, and maybe even grandchildren, of their own. I lost my father when I was only 12 years old, and my mother when I was in my 30's. Losing my father was absolutely devastating to me, but it wasn't until my mother had died too that I felt what it was like to be an "orphan". Nothing is EVER the same ever again once both your parents are gone... that is an unalterable fact! It pains me and makes me very angry when I hear children calling their parents vulgar names and saying they "hate" them and "wish they were dead". I wonder how they would feel if that suddenly happened? They should be ashamed to even think such things, much less say them! They will never know how lucky they are to have parents who care about them and want to be involved in their lives.... until the day they are gone. Life will never be the same again. I'd hate to think that children can be so callous and cruel to their parents like that... but I have heard it in public with my own eyes and ears. It makes me so sad and so angry. What kind of children are we raising these days??? Why are they so cruel and heartless??? I never once said such hateful and hurtful things to MY parents.... I can't even conceive of what could make a child say these horrible things to their parents.
Keep looking up folks. God says we get to reunite again, Amazing Blessings for all those are followers of Jesus. Amen.
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