Sunday, June 3, 2018

The physical signs of intense sadness - PLEASE READ.

Sadness can have a deep effect on our bodies and the physical manifestation of sadness is quite clear, to say the least.


Sadness has a way of crippling your soul and rendering you inactive. It can bring down your spirits, break your energy levels, and make you seek isolation. Intense sadness which is an elongated period of sadness of high intensity can make you feel horrible, physically too.

While sadness is an emotional thing, if it continues for a long period of time and at intense levels, then its effects start manifesting physically. It becomes clear, physically, that you are undergoing an emotional stress and the following signs define them clearly.


#1 Irritability


Sadness means that you are emotionally not ready to engage in complex topics and definitely not ready to humour trivial things. Your mind gets programmed in a way that the best you can do is discuss the most pressing matters.

This means that any topic which you find inconsequential would get to your nerves because your mind is spending a lot of time, fighting the sadness and talking about unimportant things puts a lot of burden on you.

#2 Fatigue



Have you ever felt tired for long periods of time but were never able to explain the reason behind it? Have you felt that even though you are sleeping a lot and eating decently too, but your energy levels are never what they used to be?



Chances are that a sense of sadness may be creeping up on you. Sadness leads to setting in of fatigue which is quite difficult to fight. The fatigue would set in slowly but steadily and before you know it, your body would be feeling tired almost always.


#3 Slow speech



What happens when you are not in the mood to discuss something? What happens when you just don't want to be a part of a conversation but you have no other way? You start speaking slowly and do not care how long it takes as you drag your speech.

Sadness affects the speech in a similar way. The fact that you are not interested in basically anything when you are sad, you hardly feel like speaking at all. Your speech becomes a drag and you feel like talking is just not worth the effort you put into it.


#4 Back pain




Your backbone is one which supports your entire body throughout the day and through the night. It is also one of the most affected parts of the body when you are under stress. The pressure of an emotional drain starts building pretty soon and the backbone usually bears the brunt of it.

The pain usually starts with at the lower back and expands throughout your back. No matter how much you try to relax your back, the effects remain as the pain is not really physical but emotional and the pain is just the manifestation of it.


#5 Sleeping disorders




Sleep is one of the most important factors in dealing with sadness. Sleeping deep and for the prescribed period of time helps you deal with the stress involved and also soothes the physical strains of the emotional burnout.

Intense sadness, therefore, affects the sleep patterns quite clearly. You would find yourself unable to sleep for long periods of time and when you do get some sleep, you would find waking up quite difficult. Further, you would also feel dead tired after waking up, not because your body isn't rested but because it is under emotional turmoil.

#6 A constant headache




The first physical symptom of sadness is, however, manifested through a headache. The strain of thoughts and the prevalence of negativity in your mind would lead to a lot of pressure on your cognitive abilities, causing deep headaches.

The sense of pain usually builds from the nape, the back of your head, and may spread over your entire head. This may also lead to unusually greater hair fall and you would feel the pressure building steadily. 


#7 Dragged walks



Have you observed the way you walk when you are lost in a negative thought? How do you walk when you feel sad? Chances are, you walk slowly, dragging your feet, not really wanting to go anywhere but walking just because you have to.

It is, therefore, one of the more clear indicators of sadness. A dragged and a lazy walk which seems to last forever, and which is not usually your regular way of walking should, therefore, indicate the presence of sadness and your need to deal with it, urgently.

FINALLY...

If you found this article useful, please share it and pass it on to others who may need to read this and get help to deal with their sadness, depression, Anxiety and stress - People need to speak up and not be afraid to ask for help. Thank you.

94 comments:

Unknown said...

This is me now and has been for a long time. Seek help,I'm under a psychiatrist not because I'm mad but because of depression,they do help.

milan ajmera said...

It's so true and correct analysis. Thanx for sharing the article.

Druid said...

I refuse help or medication. I just focus on something productive.

Anonymous said...

Druid I refuse medication as well. Medication does nothing but make certain things worse and that's coming from someone else's experience. Doing something positive and productive helps block the negative!

Anonymous said...

There are quite a few symptoms that I recognize within myself. The headaches, backaches, and tiredness beyond belief. I've recently been unemployed for over 6 months so that doesn't help matters much, but even before that, I felt the aches. This probably started when I broke up with a man I lived with for 7 years. It was my doing but since then my life seemed to have spiraled. I'm functioning properly, though. I just take each day as it comes, but I know for a fact I've become quite unsocial.

Anonymous said...

This is so true, but would help more if you gave some pointers on how to deal with such intense feelings....

Anonymous said...

So me too but so hard to explain to people who just don't understand

Anonymous said...

I have travelled this path and sad to say am still on it. I was ill for a few years had electric shock treatment amongst many pills. I lost my partner very suddenly and at a young age. My family left home within a couple of years. My parents passed away within a couple of months of each other.I hate going out and often it could be weeks before I see or speak to anyone.I don't want to go out. I think at times because I don't have that great big cut in my leg or head or arm others think it's an act an excuse for attention. If only it was, if only they knew just how hard it is to even wash your face some mornings, because of how you feel. It's people who don't know anything about this way I feel or act need to have the likes of this post shown to them. I know what all is going on, but no one else understands. How I would love to step away from this life and walk in different shoes.

Anonymous said...

Turn to Jesus Cast all your fears and worries on the Lord, he will take you in his arms and comfort you. Read and learn the 23 psalm

rme said...

Before you refuse medication, maybe having a complete physical might be a good idea. There could be other things going on, thyroid issues, high glucose levels, heart, etc!

Damra said...

I HAVE ABOUT 97% of these symptoms!! I equate most to Myasthenia Gravis. Which I have had for appx. 19 yrs. But been off meds for past 2 yrs!! Shame on me! All my life I have been a positive thinker. But over the past 4 yrs I have just lost it. My designing quality to Paint, or design Jewelry has dwindled.

Anonymous said...

I too have had all these symptoms for nearly two years now . Have been on medication and it has helped a little . But at times I wish I wasn't t here and it worries me how it is affecting my family. I have had so many friends and relatives pass away in the last few years and feel so alone. My son a d daughter have helped me a lot but you do need people of your own age . Iam. 87…

Worried person said...

Im severely depressed it's killing me

Anonymous said...

Heartbroken and sad beyond belief. Just lost the love of my life also one month ago. I understand what you are saying, sometimes I wish I could feel physical pain just so the hurt inside wasn't so intense. But please don't hurt your body. Will just lead to more issues. Put on headphones and rock your soul with good music. Just close your eyes and let it wash over you,it works for me, hopefully it will you. I don't know you but do feel your pain and I love you God bless

Anonymous said...

I’ve been experiencing all of these...my mother passed away 2 months ago.
The sadness is overbearing. I’ve been feeling awful. Fatigue, back pain,
my legs feel like lead. I’m sad most of the time.

Unknown said...

God thought i was reading about myself there so how my gonna fix it iv tried for years and can't work out how fix it or get back to normal whatever normal is x

Unknown said...

I have 80% of the above mentioned...
Everyday is a struggle for me I just try to put on a happy face for others but deep inside im so sad! I cant bear this pain in my back arms and neck I dnt get any descent sleep and is always tired. Honestly I am not happy in my marriage for the past 3yrs and I have tried over and over to fix things but its just not getting better... I am lost, out of control and just not myself anymore ����

Anonymous said...

I am very happy for other people I really am, but as for myself I have bipolar depression, diabetes, high blood pressure and a few other things. My wife passed away last July from COPD and smoking. I cry a lot and do not understand why I am going through all this. I know that there are others worse off than me I am just venting, sorry. My biggest concern is financial and I continue to struggle, can anyone help me and if I can I will help you. I have 2 children a boy and a girl, also. God Bless and thank-you for reading this.

Anonymous said...

This is me 100%, I put on a fake smile every day and not one person close to me knows how I really feel, soo hard for me to have any hope in my life I really don't know how I go on.

Unknown said...

Extremely useful information. Well done

Anonymous said...

After reading this article I have discovered that this is me. Been this way ever since my spouse had an affair with my best friend. I thought I had healed from the hurt but my body is telling me different. Spouse and I worked through the situation and are closer now than ever before. However I now see that I still have sadness. ��

Anonymous said...

Wow..this is totally me. I lost my soulmate 33 weeks ago and I thought my arthritis or fibro was flairing because of the stress. Before he was killed I felt great but gradually it is ths and that, especially the sleep. I haven't slept a full night since he's been gone :(

Unknown said...

Worried Person... get help. You don't have to live that way, and it will probably end up killing you. I would highly recommend that you do not refuse medicine if you need it. I have taken it for the past 30 years and I would not be here without it. You CAN feel good. Trust me... I am the voice of experience.

Unknown said...

All I can say is that I know how you feel, every bit of it. I had been lonely and alone throughout my whole life. I hope it changes for you, and I truly hope you find your happy place, you deserve it.

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Unknown said...

I've come to realise that one of the main reasons for my backache and neck ache and headache is that when you're feeling down and tired and stressed and sad, you slouch. You walk with your head down. You slouch when you sit and rest your head on your hand. You don't feel like sitting straight. This puts so much pressure on the surrounding muscles and causes more pain and makes you feel worse. I know this and yet, when I'm feeling like that, I still slouch, then suffer the consequences. Sometimes, it's just so damn hard to hold my head high... So, maybe we need to fake it till we make it. Hold our heads up and sit up straight, even when we feel like crap, to avoid feeling even more crap...

Gary Graefen said...

You have created one of the most successful blogs I have ever seen. Highest kudos I can pay. But some suggestions about how to over come sadness, would have seemed to be in order. Thanks for all you do. :)

striving to be like Jesus said...

I refuse all medications as well. They are nothing but poison meant to keep making doctors and big pharma money.

Anonymous said...

I feel this way too

Anonymous said...

These people are DEPRESSED and need treatment. I have taken meds for over thirty years, without them I would not be here today. Not everybody has to take them that long. Good counseling is a must along with the meds. My doctors tell me I have a really bad case and will probably need to stay on them the rest of my life. I am 70 years old and have had many tragedies in my life that have brought great sadness. With enough sadness comes depression where everything is difficult to cope with. Life can be totally different with the help of a good doctor. Make an appointment today and go ASAP?

Anonymous said...

I feel your pain. I'm there now with different circumstances. We should talk or something.

Unknown said...

Anonymous i understand you so well. You have got à partner. And itś me. Itś nou 3years after i lost my job in a very traumatic way. And the symptoms is still the same. And i am on the same meds. I'am unfit for work because of all this symptoms.🙇 😓🙌. I dont know what to do because ì cant work😭

Unknown said...

God bless you and your children. Stay strong and positive for them and in time things will get better xx 💜

Anonymous said...

I am not sad or depressed.

Anonymous said...

To the People who refuse medication,let me ask You if You could not see, would You refuse Eyeglasses. Or if You had Diabetis would You refute Insulin?

bobbyr55 said...

I see myself in this whole thing 100% Yet people never do anything to help, they refuse to accept it and only say just buck up, like this is no real thing. Why can't they understand what we are all going through and try to help, rather just turn their noses up at those of us who suffer from this.

David K said...

I suffer all these unsavoury emotions all the time.
It is completely draining, and I do feel as though my mental illness is holding me back. My mood swings have become drastic. One minute, I am pleasant, then suddenly I become the devil incarnate. Mental illness is the 2nd biggest killer in young people especially, yet there is still a massive stigma around this awful illness. Those who do not have this illness seem to think that the sufferers are just a little fed up, and it will pass. Their attitude makes my blood boil. I have wasted a lot of energy explaining my illness to those who have never suffered with mental illness or are unknowledgeable about the illness. I have attempted suicide on 2 occasions. On Tuesday, I was very agitated, that I turned to alcohol. The demon drink does not change anything. Another matter that annoys me, is that when a celebrity is diagnosed with Anxiety/Depression, the public attitude changes.

Anonymous said...

This has been me for over a year.
Lost both parents in 6 months.
I also became extremely gluten intolerant and anaphylactic shock
Reactions. Have to carry epi pens
Always. Stress has overwhelmed my life
For several years, even before my parents deaths. I feel so drained ALL
THE TIME.

Ken said...

I can relate. I was hit in the head with a door on a Schwann's truck and caused a spinal cord injury. I was in and out of a wheel chair for almost three years. The depression and pain is off the chart sometimes. I have not worked since then, that was 1998. To many people, there was nothing wrong with me, because they could not see the depression, the pain, the burning in my body, the abject failure I felt like and the man I was, was gone. I have been through two surgeries on the neck and spinal cord, two open heart surgeries, seven stints, a pacemaker and more. The only way I ave made it was through the Bible. I have stayed in His Word and it has helped me tremendously. I lost my older brother to murder, my younger brother came to live by me to help, and he died in my arms in my front yard helping me move a tv. My parents passed, my father had Alzheimer's, which is a horrible disease! I have plenty of reasons to feel bad, to stay in depression, as I have one friend, my wife. She has stuck with me for more than thirty years otherwise I would not have made it. I have my children and grandchildren that keep me going, but the biggest support, is Messiah Yeshua! I trust Him that He will give me my last breath in His time. Keep strong people, life is not easy, it's hard but He promised He would not leave us or forsake us! Stay Strong!

Anonymous said...

Great article, but I would say its depression not sadness. I did not realize how depressed I was. I just thought I had fibro or some muscle disease. I body ached so bad that anywhere I touched it was in pain. I had all the symptoms above but did not recognize it as depression. I went to my doctor believing she would diagnose me with fibro or send me for testing. What she did was ask me questions about my situation, my life, my job, my family and I could not stop crying. I just moved to a new area and the days were dark, the rain was relentless, I was missing my family and my friends. The doctor brought it all out. I went for counselling, did a bounce back program and refused to go on medication until I realized I was not getting better. I finally figured I should try anti-depressants and thank God I did. I can think clearly, I don't overthink everything, I am enjoying my new life and love where I am today. Thanks to a great doctor that knew the signs. Living the life in BC, Canada

Unknown said...

Hither, get yourself a copy of The Barefoot Investor, it will change your life

Anonymous said...

This is me to a T. I hate being like this but I have suffered with severe chronic depression for 29 years. I'm now have stage 4 secondary breast cancer. I just don't know where to turn.

Anonymous said...

I lost my son tragically. One month after giving birth to my first girls. I have been trying to manage my feelings of grief and happiness. Its been 3 years this past july and i finally admited that i need help. My depressionis sinking me in a deep hole. My moid changes, even i notice it. All of these symptoms I have. I really need help.

Unknown said...

I agree 100% people don't understand and to be honest do more harm and should read this you simply can't control things that happen in life or the same for how we feel and at this point I don't bother to try to explain other than my therapist I've finally found someone who listens and validates my feelings because they are real and don't just go away and yes I try to be as positive as possible but somehow it gets shot down I just try one day hour minute whatever the situation is but every symptom except headache is to a T we are not alone but ill tell you sometimes being in a room full I feel the loneliest prayers to us all we deserve to be happy and understood

Anonymous said...

I feel your pain also. Its like im a living dead now. Doesnt want to do anything though im trying hard to divert my attention to something productive still i cant find satisfaction in anything i do. Guess what we can do right now is to just pray & trust God everything will eventually be back to normal.

Unknown said...
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Unknown said...

I experience all these lost my husband 3 months ago. We were always together when I wasn’t working. Please pray. I have been praying a lot.

Unknown said...

I read this and hope some one or some thing can save me you us our love our children the rest of our lives together i love U more than ever xoxo

Unknown said...

I have read all these comments an my heart goes out to all the people who have had loses that are unbearable,I think each an every one of you are strong an incredible, even if you don't see it or feel it,you all shared ur pain an now along with the information in this blog you withouy knowing it may possibly have help someone else seek medical treatment,counselling an know that they aren't alone.

Unknown said...

I have read all these comments an my heart goes out to all the people who have had loses that are unbearable,I think each an every one of you are strong an incredible, even if you don't see it or feel it,you all shared ur pain an now along with the information in this blog you withouy knowing it may possibly have help someone else seek medical treatment,counselling an know that they aren't alone.

Anonymous said...

some times it is too much. perhaps you are better out of this world.
boring and nothing to look forward to. Death is the answer, yes.perhaps


























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Anonymous said...

Yes I agree, I have bpd and not on medication, my moods change rapidly from high to suicidal...i distract work on small achievements. Ride the wave as I know things will change. Medication can bring so many more problems due to side effects, many of them permenant.. ... This is my own choice but there are people who require medication to survive

Anonymous said...

What is your financial situation that worries You?

Anonymous said...

Tell them. At least you don't be taking it Any more which is emotional pressure in itself. If you had a physical health prob you wouldn't think twice. It's only stigma that stops you. I in 4 of us has it and everyone knows this now so go for it. You might be surprised 1 in 4 of those you tell eill say me to and then you can recover together.
All the best Sam

Anonymous said...

I have all these symptoms. I was in unhappy marriage. I lost the love of my life 4 yrs ago. One thing after another. I finally got with someone and was happy. I finally had motivation to do things again but then we broken up cuz he was controlling. I shut down and it ended our relationship. Now I'm worse. I'm a fighter but some days I just wanna GIVE UP but I know that's being selfish. I just wanna feel better and be happy! Wishing everyone peace, love, happiness and healing!!!

Unknown said...

God help u xx

Andrea said...

I lost my very best friend back in Sept 0f 2015. I took it harder than I thought I would. We used to do just about everything together, and then he died. I started getting past the mourning stage. and then a year after his death, my Dr asked me if I had replaced my boyfriend yet. I corrected him by saying, that he was my good friend. then a year went by and he asked me the same thing, and told him again that he was my friend. This has happened 4 times now. And very time the Dr asks me, I go back to the ICU, and feel my friends pain. And then the mourning starts all over again. I am getting very tired of the Dr asking, so I have decided when I see him in Sept. I am going to bring it up and hopefully set him straight. And tell him the pain I go through everytime he brings it up, and the saddness in my heart of losing this dear man, how my heart aches for his company.

We knew each other for over 20 yrs., and so many people thought we were married, we were always out together, we always talked on the phone, when I needed his help he was always there for me. He was there even when I didnt need his help.

After he died, I spoke to one of his friends and they told me that whenever my friend was at his home, he would say how much he loved me, how much a girl like me could make a differance in his life.
He was very shy in talking about his needs. I wish he would have told me. Cause I felt so much love for him too. I treated him like the very best friend that he was, and in some ways he was my soul mate as well.

How I miss him, how my heart aches for his presence to be near me again. How I miss his laughter, and the way he said my name. It seems like I will never get over him not being here when I need or want him.

I know what my saddness is. And I will have to mourn him again. And tell my Dr to never mention him again to me. I cant keep mourning, I just want to remember the good times we had, not the ICU.

Thanks for listening to a broken hearted lady.

Anonymous said...

Purchase the book a new earth by eckhart tolle. Mindfulness i.e. becoming present can help. It changed my life. Its also on utube under Oprah and Elkhart . I implore those who suffer from their own thoughts to find out about mindfulness!

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Anonymous said...

My life the last 7 years has been emotional hell for me. I found out my husband of 38 years was having an affair. I wondered why he had gotten so cold, chose to sleep in his recliner, and everyday at the same time he would leave to go check something at his shop. I found out because I was ill one day and had to miss work. My schedule was every Tuesday and every other weekend. Well I had to miss work, the phone rang and there was this woman on the line asking for my husband, which isn't unusual because he works on computers, so I took the phone to him.
I didn't realize they were talking an hour later. He explained that they were childhood friends, he found her through an online search they do for money.
I finally called my cell phone company and asked they send on paper all the calls made on our phones, it costs next to nothing.
Sure enough, a gazillion calls, some just blew my mind. While I was having surgery he was on the phonne with her.
She ended up passing away last year, he says to me, now don't you feel guilty? Why would I? I wasn't part of the equation.
Anyway I just can not forgive him, he got real sick and I had to bathe him and do all the things a nurses aid would have to do, all I could think of is, you don't deserve this.
I retired this year because of medical conditions, I have no contact with the outside world except my children if they come over. I have gained so much weight it's embarrasing to even go out. Maybe theres more wrong, my daughter said I need meds because I blow up so easy. Anybody else go through this? What did you do? I just feel to old to start over.

same boat said...

Anonymous, I completely understand. My husband started an affair after 7 years of marriage. He had shut the door on me completely. No hugs, kisses, conversation..we lived under the same roof but that's about all. She is well known in our town as a tart but he couldn't see it. I had a gut feeling and lots of circumstantial evidence..underwear inside out, missed belt loops. He finally confessed when I was about to swallow a handful of sleeping pills. 8 years I was nothing. He had even bought her a past, present future necklace. My health started failing when I had started to clue in..extremely high blood pressure, insomnia, depression, supressed anger. A few months after he confessed he was diagnosed with cancer and a 20% survival rate. I was with him for every doctor's appointment, chemo, radiation appointment, every single step. I was with him every day post surgery. He was on 100% life support twice. It was hell. Many problems with his recovery after he came home. I had made a commitment on our wedding day and was going to honour that. I have heard she is not well. I tell people I don't care. She started an affair with my husband, knowing he was married and at a very vulnerable emotionally. I despise her and will NOT FEEL GUILTY when she dies. I will be glad because she will not be able to cause damage to any more marriages. She told someone I know she prefers married men. No empathy for her at all.

Unknown said...

I feel all of it.. I'm not alone but why I'm not happy?

Anonymous said...

I didn't know this was me until I read the article. My back hurts not surprising really me jaw is tight all the time. I hardly sleep, and don't laugh like I use to.
I sit no speaking to people I know, life sucks sometimes but how do I get out of this hell hole that I have found myself in.

same boat said...

Anonymous, if your husband is trying to flip the situation, as mine does, and tries to put the blame on you for the affair, don't believe it. I tell mine to stop deflecting. I wasn't there when it started and certainly not there during the sex and had I been, I would have told them not to. Don't let him play with your head. I am certainly not the same person I was before but I am not the one who made the choices that got him in that situation. You probably have to change your internal dialogue. I find I was always beating myself up in my head...I must be a pathetic partner in bed because he chose her over me...she is very slim..wish I was too and maybe he would be attracted to me again..She ia also about 20 years younger. I constantly put myself down. I have major trust issues now. I just keep telling myself that I am the one who stayed faithful and refuse to accept any deflections. I started to go for walks just to think. I found not only did I feel better about myself but those walks gave me the opportunity to reflect on my husband's true character. Yes, he cheated. Yes he destroyed my world. Yes, he was not there when I needed him most but I knew to heal my soul and move forward I had to see that he was back with me. He was trying to get our life back on track. He is a kind man despite his behaviour while with her. I still have medical issues. My neck is short and the doc says that's from carrying the stress and anxiety. When my brain starts to think back on all the negative things I heard and saw, I try to tell myself I don't have to think about that now and try to focus on something I enjoy. I took up painting as a distraction. Just acrylics and canvases from the $ store. I don't have an easel so just put a plastic tablecloth on my table and away I go. My brain is transported into a world I find relaxing. Lots of tutorials on You Tube. If painting isn't your thing, maybe reading or something you used to enjoy. I still have sleep issues. Don't accept sarcasm from your husband. He chose the behaviour, not you. See yourself as a good wife, mother, employee..whatever. try to be happy for any good things you can find.

Unknown said...

Well done stating the symptoms..
Anyone can do that....nowhere in this longwinded article do I see an attempt to provide help / solutions or even talk about the route cause of this very broad and widely acknowledged topic .

Unknown said...

Yes...exactly my thorts!..he has the equivalent of telling people what the FLU Simptoms are and finishing by saying .." yeah , so that's the Flu ...in a nutshell...good luck with that " Dear oh dear...pathetic actually
.

Unknown said...

Where are the solutions

Unknown said...

You have my deepest sympathy and I trust your fond memories will assist you in healing one day because I lost my husband too 85 days ago and Sept 16th will make it 3 months. Cindy I am starting a Survival Spouse Movement. Please feel free to call me at 8566021423. Atiyah Bey from Jersey #BeyCare

Unknown said...

heart broken and sad beyond believe, i have all these symptoms.

Anonymous said...

"The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints" can help find the Mormon missionaries in your area or log on to lds.org Heavenly Father is a merciful God pray with a sincere heart believing that he will help you, Jesus Christ lives and because of His atonement everything is possible. When the missionaries give you the Book of Mormon read it because you will find answer to every problem in this life, it will bring you closer to God, it will bring peace to your soul, it will transform your life for good.... there is a power in the Book of Mormon please read it.
Me too have been tried and tested in this life...but after much tribulations blessing comes at the end..Heavenly Father gave me line upon line precept upon precept a little here a little there...He can soften your heart and enlighten your mind as you listen hear and obey that still small voice even the Holy Spirit telling you that you are a child of God. Please remember that every soul is worth in the sight of God, He loves us more than we can ever imagine, He is willing to help us but we have to help ourselves too. Be prayerful because it is the most powerful shield against the fiery dart of the adversary. Be thankful for the gift of life because not all spirit received a body like us. I am so grateful for all the trials in my life without them I will not be strong, God gave me weaknesses so that I will know how to humble myself before Him. I love my Heavenly Father and my Savior Jesus Christ so thankful to know that I am a daughter of a king I will endure and will have a wonderful journey home.

Anonymous said...

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"President Thomas S. Monson"on the blessing of prayer - "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints"

Anonymous said...

after reading all the comments, I am shocked to find out so many feel the way I do my depression /sadness began 21 yrs ago when my only son, my baby, took his life, then in the following 3 yrs I lost a sister, 2 brothers, my stepfather, an aunt I was very close to, and I adopted my sons daughter raised her for 20 yrs, went thru 2 pregnancies with her, and then she just on impulse got involved w/ her birth mother who is a spiteful hateful person and had thrown away her babies like trash and now thinks she wears the crown of mother of the year.I am not allowed to contact my daughter, by her choice, and have not been allowed to have any contact with the 2 babies I helped deliver, I am 72 and see no purpose left in my life, my husband lives in another state and has a girlfriend, my 2 surviving girls , well one just can rarely make time and the other tries her best but she has a very busy life, everyday I pray I can just go to sleep and not wake up, nothing brings me joy anymore. Thanks for letting me vent

Anonymous said...

What if you do open up and nobody listens

Anonymous said...

I have carried sadness with me all my life since being abused as a child and feeling let down by the people I trusted the most in the world.
I am now 46 and still live with sadness everyday.I refuse to take medication and have gone through the councilling route too. I have been progressive but nothing works.
I am in a loving relationship with a wonderful man. I have a beautiful daughter who continually brings me joy and pride.
I still carry my sadness with me,I own it,I contain it and I keep moving forward.
I have become quite insular but my partner understands.I have days where I feel so blue I don't know what to do and dont want to be here anymore but the next day I might feel full of positivity so I know my sadness comes in waves.
Sadness is my friend as well as my enemy. I have learnt to recognise it,allow it, but not give into it.
All I can say to others is keep fighting,never give in.Ask for help if you need it or take time to yourself if you need it,your needs matter.
Each day is a new adventure and I tell myself "I can do this". Most days I believe it too but on the days I don't believe it and I give into the sadness I don't beat myself up anymore,I know that I have to feel it and then put it back in it's box so that it doesn't rule me.
The path still stretches out in front of you so keep walking it one step at a time, no need to run nor is there any need to turn around and go back,just keep walking head high with oxygen in your lungs.....breathe....it's all we have really.

Unknown said...

Hello, you are fortunate to have a family unit for support, encouragement, and something to look forward to. I have not had this for decades, TREASURE IT! I always thought that mine was due to circumstances. I've been through every route as far as help is concerned and as you say comes in waves. The one thing tgat helps me is a supplement called Gaba 750 mg. Try it, can be found any health food establishment. Hope this helps.

Anonymous said...

Talk to someone, most I know have their own lives, problems and so on, yes their friends, there's family too,,, but after years of being there for them, their ears are deaf, so what to do,,, lock it down put a smile in your face and cry into the darkness.

Anonymous said...

This is a great article. also a lot of good comments. Yes it really does speak to sadness. I have lived through so much of this. I truly believe the only ONE thing that can help you completely overcome sadness is knowing your creator personally. It takes time but once you realize this and start to get to know Him He can help overcome all of your heartbreaks.

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Anonymous said...

I never knew there was such a deep,every cell, level of burning pain as what I experienced when my son died 36 hours after a fall at our house. I was not so much afraid that I couldn't survive this; but rather afraid that I WOULD survive, and have to awaken each day to the heartache of his death. Prayer sustained me with an amount of strength to go through the days even though I cried till I ran out of tears for the day, and my body ached with pain. For my husband and I, a grief support group was a great outlet for our feelings of grief. Writing a journal was another emotional outlet. Sometimes I wrote to God; sometimes I wrote to my son. Other times I just wrote as a mother with a broken heart. Joining a fitness center was helpful. We went during quiet hours. We didn't feel like going, but often times I would just float in the pool as tears streamed from my eyes and others never noticed my pain. After 2 years of weekly grief support meetings, I felt as though I could help others, so I became one of the facilitators at the grief group. In the beginning days of this journey, seeing the pain in my two other son's faces was almost as unbearable as my own pain. So in closing, I would say that the mental, emotional & physical pain of sorrow for any reason must be dealt with on many fronts. Prayer, councilling, listening friends, exercise, journalling and whatever you can concieve to try.

Anonymous said...

I had a very difficult childhood and was barely functioning as an adult so I went into therapy. I took meds for awhile too. It made all the difference in my life. I encourage others to do the same. I wouldn't be alive today without it. It takes a bit of looking to find a good therapist but don't give up. I'd also like to suggest a good book to help "Learned Optimism" by Seligman. It can help change the way you see things and think. As I've aged, I needed to have some medicinal help so I went on antidepressants. They made a huge difference for me. I would like to suggest not to be afraid of medications because they can be so helpful. I've seen them help many people. Maybe they'll just be a temporary fix for you until you find a different solution. If sharing my experiences helps anyone, then it's been worth the effort. God bless.

Jan said...

To Jayne Taylor
I went to a woman from the Philippines who claimed to be a psychiatrist. Oh the degrees we're on the wall but she was evil & had me on 5 meds that destroyed my balance. Her office is a fraud & is located in Fair Oaks, CA. Her male counterpart from the Philippines also was treating my mentally I'll son. All that S.O.B. did was feed the narcissistic monster in my son. He put me through elder abuse for years. My son died 7/29/17 of cancer. I stopped seeing her 4/14 when she trapped me in her office. I do not take any of those meds any more & I have to use a walker. Be careful because ALL of those meds can ruin your balance or something else in the drug. I will NEVER go to another psychiatrist ever again.

Anonymous said...

Many of these symptoms can also be a result of PTSD. Treatment can help one to stabilize....and prayer.

Anonymous said...

Many of the symtoms mentioned may be a result of PTSD. Treatment can help.....meds can stabilize, talking to someone...and prayer.

Anonymous said...

This is me for the last year. Lately I been having thoughts of suicide. I stay in my pretty much most of the time. I hate going to any social gatherings and most sadly it's with family. I keep thinking of should haves and would haves. Self confidence is nearly non-existence. Feel like a total failure. How do I get myself out of this funk?

Anonymous said...

My back������love of my life is gone. It hurts everyday

CarrieG said...

I'm a 49year old woman,no kids and feel like the above all the time. I've tried so many things but nothing has changed.

Tayo Vinky said...

All pictures in the article show females, most responses are from..... females. Is sadness and depression just a female thing?? No, of course not. I wonder what the author "Dave" (male!) was thinking when he wrote those words.

Anonymous said...

Love heals all, Love, love yourself, find the love of God, join a church, rescue a hopeless animal. For me, I am sane because of my dogs. They love me unconditionally. Also, I read the bible and grow close to God and his love. I am sending all of you a good tight hug. I love you, even though I do not know you. I understand what it feels like to be at the bottom. I know what it feels like to be betrayed. Sometimes people have chemical imbalances and nothing will resolve those until you are able to figure it out. Make sure you get your thyroid checked and all your hormones. If possible, exercise. Really push yourself physically. I am saying all the things that have worked for me. I also never admit to feeling down. I tell myself I am strong and by God, I will not feel self pity. Get up everyday and look in the mirror and tell yourself you have value and are worthy of self respect. The best way to get out of depression is to get busy, give of yourself to those who need you. There are people out there, just like you that just need someone to reach out to them and help them get up one more time. It is not how many times you fall down, only that you get back up. You get stronger and stronger. I think you are all very sensitive and caring people. You are the kind of people the world is the cruelest to. Remember there are people out there that need you, they need your help. Because only you can understand. They need you to teach them to be strong.

Nikki said...
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Nikki said...


You wrote this over a year ago... amazing how long it takes for people to see things we've written ! I'm very sorry to hear of your terrible experience with the female doctor you saw and also that your son was not treated correctly either and passed. I agree with your mssg., that we must be careful of whom we trust with our mental health as we would with our physical health. And I too have /never will go to a psychiatrist. Had my own bad experiences! It left me with a worse memory and did not help with the depression. I do hope this mssg finds you doing well and thankyou again for posting this.

Anonymous said...

I am always sad I have got myself. On a trapped marriage

Debra said...

I am just so extremely sad. I just lost my son in January unexpectedly. Something died in me. I cry a river of tears daily still. I feel this will never go away. I loved him so dearly. He was battling many demons and health issues. I tried my best to help him but he just would not do the right thing consistently. He has two children who are just lost. I feel so bad for them. They live with me and my husband. We are retired but my husband has to work. We had to support them for years up until his death.He can not enjoy retirement because of our debt. It is going to be. ok, I hope. We live in an older home that is just going to hell. So much work needed but no funds. It has been a battle for so long. I cannot believe to this day that my son is gone forever. He was 40 on January 12th. He passed on his daughter's 14th birthday Jan.25th. We are still waiting on autopsy reports. He was in a recovery facility due to come home on the 27th of January. All of this is just unbelievably sad for all of us. You never think your child will pass before you do. Thank you for allowing me to vent. It surely helps.

Anonymous said...

Where I live, I've BEGGED for help but can't get any. I have been diagnosed by 5 different psychiatrists in 3 states that I am bi-poar with a heavy dose of panic-anxiety disorder that I would havev to be on medication all my life. Now, I can't find any help at all. What am I supposed to do? Just lie here and die?

Norma said...

Me to a tee. I don't know if I'll ever get back.

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