Sometimes we can love them with all our heart and they don't always love you back the same way. That doesn't mean you stop loving them any less than you did. It hurts but, God's word is more powerful. He will heal all wounds if you let him. Love wins in the end.
Being a step parent is the most difficult thing I've ever done. It's like walking a tight rope, if you do too much you'll upset one parent, if you do too little, you'll upset the other. I've appreciated my step mother to a whole new level after becoming one myself. It is truly a daunting task that not everyone can handle. I truly believe it takes a special person to be a good step parent.
I have a beautiful step daughter. I came into her life when I started dating her father. She was only 2 or 3 at the time. It was hard at first and the hard part was not from her as much as it was on the part of her Mom. Her Mom thought that I was trying to take her place. One I was able to prove to her Mom that I Loved her daughter and only wanted the best for her. I was all fine. My stepdaughter is now 20 years old has moved cross country to go to school and a few months ago her Mom and I flew together to visit her. I believe that being a step parent it special. But being a stepchild is the hard part. I love my step Child as if she were my own and now her Mother respect me for that. She is very fortunate because she has not only two parents who Love her and help her but she now has four. Her Mother, Her Father, Her Stepmother And her Stepfather. That is a blessing for her.
Well it's so sad that my x would do bad things in front of his daughter like take her to his other women house that he was dating and then they would come home and he'd start saying bad things to me and she asked him one day why do you always do that to her and i gave until i couldn't give no more i gave 100 he gave 20 and i don't feel bad bcuz i feel like he wasn't for me are should i say i wasn't for him but i still pray for him that he get it rite bcuz i don't want her growing up thinking that thats the way a man is to treat a lady help me out did i do the rite thing
There are so many loosers that are called step parents. , (ex February 12) . Where is the mother of this poor child, if that was my husband l would have kicked his lazy ass out the door so fast . Shame on the mom for having an animal like this in her house. This id most likely a lazy, good for nothing, has no respect for himself much less his wife and step SON. Someone should get this "thing" and give him a Louisville slugger!!!!!!!! You need God in your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why dont mothers wake up"! Why dont you see and investigate his background and introduce him to your child before you move him in. These children are having s hard enough time coping w parents divorce then mom brings a new guy in the house.( and they dont have a choice to decide if they like him or not) and most likely will not work out. l was a single parent but before l remarried l made sure she liked my husband now. We have been married 25 yrs. Ladies dont settle for less. There are still good men outhere be patient. The Lord will bring a good husband ur way!!!!!!!!!!
I thought the louisville slugger comment wasn't serious. I thought it was kind of funny. The truth is that some kids from broken homes can be very damaged by the two parents and the adversarial nature of the broken home dynamic. Sometimes it can be very frustrating. I had a stepdaughter that I helped to raise from the age of 2 to 8 when her mother and I divorced. She was a sweetheart and never difficult to deal with. I really missed her and have kept in touch with her over the years. She has been struggling in the past with bad relationships, but has found her way lately. I wish her all the best in life, and hope she doesn't wind up all screwed up like her mom. (My x wife).
I have found this experience to be rewarding, bonding to another child in my life, fulfilling, loving, difficult on all parties involved, blessing in my life, and most of all to watch them grow up to be young ladies with goals @ some of life's most trying times. ♥
I am a stepmother and it is an awful job to be brought in when the parents can't even get along. If you don't want to be married to each other fine, but be civil to each other for the sake of the children. My stepsons think I am evil, but that is because they believe they should get to do anything they want, when they want and without care to anyone. They all have broken the law at some point and have been defended by their father and grandfather. I have had to open my husband's eyes to really how his son's were and what his freestyle of parenting was doing to his his kids. I have no idea how my husband, his ex-wife and grandfather can be proud of what these 3 boys have done. They had a lot of potential but are wasting it on being stupid. So if I am the wicked stepmother it is because I want more for them and their lives than they want themselves. So if that makes me wicked so be it. Fact is while I have paid for their support they have rude and behaved what is not even considered normal. They are all finally at age 18 and I just try to stay out of their way and let them learn from their own mistakes. They have been mislead and I am considered evil, so the school of hard knocks will have to deal with their bad behavior.
You are truly right! My husband is stepfather to my son who has mental issues, which has been an emotional challenge for both of us. Top it off with unexpected twin girls after my son an only child for 11 years and we have had a 4 ye rollercoaster ride! But my husband, a true man has done his best & never gives up!
Total respect for you, what a wonderful thing to do for your "family". We have had the opposite for our grandsons, our Daughters children. The pain and hurt has been unbelievable. Our grandsons have had such a horrible experience, She gained very loving well behaved boys. However she thought she would erase their entire maternal family from their life. It has not gone her way. After 2 years in court the boys are finally getting legal relief. I had 4 wonderful step moms and was so blessed. I am still in touch with the ones that are living and love them dearly. You are a blessing!
being a step parent isnt easy im a stepmother i have my own daughter from my previous relationship but at the end of the day its not the childs fault its the parents the way they bring them up no matter what a child needs love and cared for whether its your own or not its not the childs fault they didnt ask for their parents to split up every child should be treated the same and loved cared for the same they are only children......
Life is too short to carry a grudge. I have been a stepparent for almost 30 years and I think we have had it all...my stepson was a drug dealer...he used drugs...he vanished from our family for almost 3 years. One day my phone rang and he was calling me from jail. He said he called me because he knew I would take the call and talk with him. Long story short...he came home but was refused admission to my home until he had cleaned up his act. I didnt want drug officers watching my house and family. My family was angry with me because of this but I stood my ground. Now he has turned his life around and is a good dad and a good son
The louisville SluggerA-Hole must be a hell of an example for his step son. My God you sicken me. You probably abused animals as a child would be my guess. Your comment has ruined my day for sure. Do the family a favor and get away from them.
I have 3 step children. One step son and 2 step daughters. I have no children of my own. I met their mother before I met them and she checked me out to make sure I wasn't some fly by nite fluzy. When I met the kids they were 2,3, and 9. It's been an amazing journey watching them grow into amazing young ladies and amazing young man. I love them with all my heart.
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I'd like to give my step son a Louisville slugger on side of his fucking Head. TY
Sometimes we can love them with all our heart and they don't always love you back the same way. That doesn't mean you stop loving them any less than you did. It hurts but, God's word is more powerful. He will heal all wounds if you let him. Love wins in the end.
Being a step parent is the most difficult thing I've ever done. It's like walking a tight rope, if you do too much you'll upset one parent, if you do too little, you'll upset the other. I've appreciated my step mother to a whole new level after becoming one myself. It is truly a daunting task that not everyone can handle. I truly believe it takes a special person to be a good step parent.
Some kids are like that because of the other parents. Because they parent want let go of the pass.
i just wanna say when u dont have wt alot do its hard but when ur given the chance to have it u treasure it nmw
so im sayin ty to my stepmother love u
I have a beautiful step daughter. I came into her life when I started dating her father. She was only 2 or 3 at the time. It was hard at first and the hard part was not from her as much as it was on the part of her Mom. Her Mom thought that I was trying to take her place. One I was able to prove to her Mom that I Loved her daughter and only wanted the best for her. I was all fine. My stepdaughter is now 20 years old has moved cross country to go to school and a few months ago her Mom and I flew together to visit her. I believe that being a step parent it special. But being a stepchild is the hard part. I love my step Child as if she were my own and now her Mother respect me for that. She is very fortunate because she has not only two parents who Love her and help her but she now has four. Her Mother, Her Father, Her Stepmother And her Stepfather. That is a blessing for her.
Well it's so sad that my x would do bad things in front of his daughter like take her to his other women house that he was dating and then they would come home and he'd start saying bad things to me and she asked him one day why do you always do that to her and i gave until i couldn't give no more i gave 100 he gave 20 and i don't feel bad bcuz i feel like he wasn't for me are should i say i wasn't for him but i still pray for him that he get it rite bcuz i don't want her growing up thinking that thats the way a man is to treat a lady help me out did i do the rite thing
There are so many loosers that are called step parents. , (ex February 12) . Where is the mother of this poor child, if that was my husband l would have kicked his lazy ass out the door so fast . Shame on the mom for having an animal like this in her house. This id most likely a lazy, good for nothing, has no respect for himself much less his wife and step SON. Someone should get this "thing" and give him a Louisville slugger!!!!!!!! You need God in your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Why dont mothers wake up"! Why dont you see and investigate his background and introduce him to your child before you move him in. These children are having s hard enough time coping w parents divorce then mom brings a new guy in the house.( and they dont have a choice to decide if they like him or not) and most likely will not work out. l was a single parent but before l remarried l made sure she liked my husband now. We have been married 25 yrs. Ladies dont settle for less. There are still good men outhere be patient. The Lord will bring a good husband ur way!!!!!!!!!!
I thought the louisville slugger comment wasn't serious. I thought it was kind of funny. The truth is that some kids from broken homes can be very damaged by the two parents and the adversarial nature of the broken home dynamic. Sometimes it can be very frustrating. I had a stepdaughter that I helped to raise from the age of 2 to 8 when her mother and I divorced. She was a sweetheart and never difficult to deal with. I really missed her and have kept in touch with her over the years. She has been struggling in the past with bad relationships, but has found her way lately. I wish her all the best in life, and hope she doesn't wind up all screwed up like her mom. (My x wife).
That's nice. I'd like to do the same thing to my stepfather.
I have found this experience to be rewarding, bonding to another child in my life, fulfilling, loving, difficult on all parties involved, blessing in my life, and most of all to watch them grow up to be young ladies with goals @ some of life's most trying times. ♥
You would never be my childs step parent...you need help Louisville slugger...you sound like you should be no ones parent...ever...js
I am a stepmother and it is an awful job to be brought in when the parents can't even get along. If you don't want to be married to each other fine, but be civil to each other for the sake of the children. My stepsons think I am evil, but that is because they believe they should get to do anything they want, when they want and without care to anyone. They all have broken the law at some point and have been defended by their father and grandfather. I have had to open my husband's eyes to really how his son's were and what his freestyle of parenting was doing to his his kids. I have no idea how my husband, his ex-wife and grandfather can be proud of what these 3 boys have done. They had a lot of potential but are wasting it on being stupid. So if I am the wicked stepmother it is because I want more for them and their lives than they want themselves. So if that makes me wicked so be it. Fact is while I have paid for their support they have rude and behaved what is not even considered normal. They are all finally at age 18 and I just try to stay out of their way and let them learn from their own mistakes. They have been mislead and I am considered evil, so the school of hard knocks will have to deal with their bad behavior.
You are truly right! My husband is stepfather to my son who has mental issues, which has been an emotional challenge for both of us. Top it off with unexpected twin girls after my son an only child for 11 years and we have had a 4 ye rollercoaster ride! But my husband, a true man has done his best & never gives up!
Total respect for you, what a wonderful thing to do for your "family". We have had the opposite for our grandsons, our Daughters children. The pain and hurt has been unbelievable. Our grandsons have had such a horrible experience, She gained very loving well behaved boys. However she thought she would erase their entire maternal family from their life. It has not gone her way. After 2 years in court the boys are finally getting legal relief.
I had 4 wonderful step moms and was so blessed. I am still in touch with the ones that are living and love them dearly. You are a blessing!
being a step parent isnt easy im a stepmother i have my own daughter from my previous relationship but at the end of the day its not the childs fault its the parents the way they bring them up no matter what a child needs love and cared for whether its your own or not its not the childs fault they didnt ask for their parents to split up every child should be treated the same and loved cared for the same they are only children......
Life is too short to carry a grudge. I have been a stepparent for almost 30 years and I think we have had it all...my stepson was a drug dealer...he used drugs...he vanished from our family for almost 3 years. One day my phone rang and he was calling me from jail. He said he called me because he knew I would take the call and talk with him. Long story short...he came home but was refused admission to my home until he had cleaned up his act. I didnt want drug officers watching my house and family. My family was angry with me because of this but I stood my ground. Now he has turned his life around and is a good dad and a good son
The louisville SluggerA-Hole must be a hell of an example for his step son. My God you sicken me. You probably abused animals as a child would be my guess. Your comment has ruined my day for sure. Do the family a favor and get away from them.
you are absolutely right. Mabe one day I will get to see that love again
I have 3 step children. One step son and 2 step daughters. I have no children of my own. I met their mother before I met them and she checked me out to make sure I wasn't some fly by nite fluzy. When I met the kids they were 2,3, and 9. It's been an amazing journey watching them grow into amazing young ladies and amazing young man. I love them with all my heart.
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