Thursday, June 7, 2018

If You Experience Some Of These Symptoms, You Are Emotionally and Mentally Exhausted.


In today’s world where everyone aspires to get rich, powerful and famous, our lives have become mechanical by following the same hectic schedule and lifestyle. The increasing hunger for materialistic needs is making us work day and night, leading us to a state of emotional and mental exhaustion.

We do not understand the fact that the real fun is not just reaching the destination; it is enjoying the journey as well. However, we are in such a hurry to achieve the goal that we forget to enjoy our journey and this has an adverse effect on our lives and mindsets. We are getting emotionally and mentally drained and the sooner we recognize this problem and sort it out, the better it will be for us.

In this article, we will look at 9 signs which show a person is emotionally and mentally drained!


1 - Getting irritated quickly

Getting irritated quickly is one of the signs of being emotionally and mentally drained. This shows that a person has lost mental peace and it doesn’t take much for them to get irritated. They are busy finding faults in others, their work and things around them. They has become an epitome of negativity and smile has become a thing of past. This state of mind proves that not everything is well in life and there is something which is constantly troubling them.

2 - Anger is your middle name

A person who gets irritated easily also starts getting angry promptly without any solid reason. People begin to maintain distance from such a person as nobody wants to get involved in unpleasant situations. An angry person always makes more mistakes than a person who is calm and composed. Such a person starts losing friends and well-wishers as people generally prefer to avoid the company of a short-tempered guy or girl.

3 - Losing focus

Once a person starts getting indulged in petty matters, much of their time goes in either quarrelling with someone or whining about something. They are not that old person anymore who was focused and disciplined, whose priority used to be their work and who wanted to enhance their skills regularly. This is the point from where they will no longer be the one who always tried their best to excel in their work field or taking care of their loved ones.

4 - Always feeling fatigued

Feeling tired and feeling fatigued are two different concepts; while a person can get rid of tiredness by giving sufficient rest to his body, it is not the case with fatigue. Fatigue can be called the absence of zeal, enthusiasm and passion from the person’s life and no amount of rest can take care of this because it is mental and not physical.

5 - Insomnia

It is a condition in which a person is not able to sleep and it further increases the problem of fatigue. They want to sleep but as they try to sleep, some thought comes to their mind and they start worrying about it. It will result in loss of sleep and this state has an adverse effect on a person’s body and mind.

6 - No motivation

A person who is emotionally drained or mentally exhausted will also lose their motivation. There is hardly anything in the world that can motivate them and it will naturally have an adverse effect on their productivity as well as personal life. This is the time when they should give their body and mind some rest, do introspection and then make a new start.

7 - Tears come into eyes quickly

When a person becomes very weak emotionally as well as mentally, even a small incident can bring tears into their eyes. In any given situation, they feel that they are helpless and they are not even in a position to handle the day-to-day stress. This condition is very harmful as it will further lead the person into a state of hopelessness.

8 - Hopelessness

In this state, a person has no hope left whatsoever with their life, with themselves or with their family members. They goes on to assure themselves that nothing right will happen with them no matter how much they try to change things and this is the point from where they will curse their destiny, luck etc. for their condition.

9 - Detachment

The concerned person stops feeling anything, whether good or bad. The emotions that they used to experience when they faced certain type of situation in life are now absent. This can be called a type of depression, the only difference being that in depression, a person feels low because of an emotion while in this case, they feels low because of the absence of an emotion.

If you can Identify with the above then here are some tips on how to improve things…


1 - Find the source of the problem

Try to find the source of the problem because of which you are feeling emotionally and mentally drained. It is absolutely necessary that you find the exact cause of your condition because then only a proper solution can be found out. It’s also necessary that you keep an optimistic approach that helps greatly in recovering from even the biggest and serious issues.

2 - Talk to your family

Your family must be by your side during the whole bad phase and if you talk to them about your problem, they will try their best to help you find the solution. This will also improve the relations between you and your family members and bring an end to loneliness.
3 - Give importance to yourself

Usually we have seen that people are more worried about the project deadlines, client satisfaction, achieving their goals, etc. but it is the time when you should give more importance to yourself than any other thing. The reason being pretty simple; what is the use of achieving all the glory of the world if your health suffers heavily and your survival becomes difficult? In simple words, set your priorities and work according to them.

4 - Make positive changes

There are some factors in life which can be controlled and changed by you and if you feel that a change is inevitable, go for it. However, don’t try hard to change or whine about those things which are not in your control. Try to swim with the flow until you don’t become strong enough to swim against the tide.

5 - Recognise and work to your strengths

Introspect, try to recognize your strengths and work on them to develop them more. Also try to check what your limitations are and how you can get over them. If you feel that you need help, don’t hesitate in talking to people because even if you don’t get help from them, you may get to learn the lessons of life.

6 – Believe your condition will improve

If these steps are followed, there will be improvement for sure and the person will not consider his condition to be too bad to get better. But what is more important is that he needs to lift up his emotions and feel happy. Life is uncertain and it may bring more problems for you but the person has to face all of them bravely.




43 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think if I read one more article, "self-help" column or advice piece that includes "reach out to your family and/or friends as you can't do this alone", I may lose it completely and irrevocably! If I had a family member or a friend who gave a shit I might have a chance! I don't! Reading that "I can't do this alone" but knowing I am completely alone really, really does not help at all. And they can't figure you why the suicide rate is up?

Anonymous said...

Reach down deep inside yourself and make a new friend - help someone else - join a group or take up a hobby - It does really help. Been there from time to time - It really helps.
signed "concerned"

Anonymous said...

5:20pm, start a chat and find someone that does care. There is someone who will care. By the sound of your message, you know how to see threw the real people and the fake people so just find it that way. This chat can stay just a support chat for you or meet if you both so chose. That's all.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous.. Being alone is hard but please if you need a friend.. walk in a church, meet people.. Talk to them and let them pray with you. Trust me. Don't be shy. Let them know you feel distraught. I recommend a Bible teaching church...The Church of the Nazarene denomination is the finest in my book.
Please share your fears and the intercessors (the prayer warriors)will intercede for you when you can't muster up the words. Suicide is not the answer. The Lord Jesus loves you. He and his church (the people who love him) will help you!! Love you!!

Kathy Pettijohn said...
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Shebou19 said...

I feel the same way, I can feel alone in a room full of people.

Anonymous said...

The feeling of being alone in a crowded room is my usual. It has happened to me several times. It makes you feel alone, forgotten and useless.
You say turn to church...That is an easy thing to say. The church I was a member of abandoned me. When an ilness set in an left me paralyzed on my right side, no one from the church responded or showed any concern.. The church members were aware of the situation but no calls, nothing. It seems being a member of the church was meaningless; they only want your money. While on this subject, I have lost faith in God. It seems no matter how much I prayed, he gave no response or help, the situation only gets worse.

It is easy for you to say, go and make new friends. When you come from a home that was filled with mental, physical, and sexual abuse you learn very fast not to trust people. You learn to survive, learn how to hid pain, anguish, feelings and emotions. I have never had best friend, never had a close friend I could talk to. I have lived this way for 60+ years.

In conclusion, don't preach about God, church and new friends unless you walked in the pesons shoes, know their feelings and know what they went through.

Voice in the wild said...

For me, what helps is to actually be alone. I give too much of myself ALL the time and there is seldom anything left to fuel ME. When I am alone, I can let my batteries recharge and focus on the things I am doing and the things that my body is doing. It's always been my job to mediate family disputes and to make everyone around me content and at peace and it's tiring. Some people are fueled by other people and some people are drained by other people. To me, it's about finding what fuels you. In my opinion, the most important part is to shut off influences that distract from recharging (like world news...terrifying, but what can I do about it?). If you want to talk to people, find someone to talk to (online is good, they don't come eat your groceries and you can turn them off). If you don't want to talk to people, turn your phone off and write, paint, craft, read a book; something that's going to help you just breathe and reset your head. Meditate if you can. Find a happy place, even if it's just inside your head; go there when you can.

Jon David said...

Sorry...but there is no solution to my problems.

Jackie Hinkins said...

Gaining support to change thoughts by being able to see and understand differently at any age

Anonymous said...

For goodness sake:
All the advice in the world can only get folks who are totally abandoned and alone so wound up because those "spouting" the "good advice" speak from stupidity or naivety.
Forgive them, they have not got the knowledge of how a sufferers pain or experience felt.
Only those who have been to hell and back IN THE SAME WAY
& have suffered the same emotional damage are qualified to exchange, commiserate or advise.
Each and every damaged one of us has to find our own way through the rot to find a inner peace that no-one else can touch or take away.
and THAT is so hard to do and maintain with all the sociopaths and narcissists in the world, a lot of them in the Healing or Advice industry, believe it or not.

Unknown said...

I agree with anonymous....

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Anonymous said...

I can understand how you feel. Please know that although I can’t be there for you in person, I do hear you and I’m pulling for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s been my experience that when I’m feeling like you, to take it one day at a time, one hour, or one minute if you have to. Depression lies and gives you no hope. I promise the light at the end of the tunnel is there, you just can’t see it. I can’t always but I just keep repeating in my mind it’s there and I get through. I’m stubborn and my determination to not let depression beat me helps me get through it. Hang in there, pick up the phone and call a crisis center if you need to talk. You don’t have to be suicidal to talk to them. If you feel overwhelmed and have no one you can talk to them. For sure if you are feeling suicidal call them. Remember you have value and you are loved even though you may not be feeling it right now you are. It’s one of the reasons people are reaching out to you through this site.

Anonymous said...

Yes I can relate to all the other people's comments. I was there myself. Crying out in the night for relief to the Holy Spirit. I went to church the next morning. The preacher spoke to my needs. I felt release from the pain inside. God has our deliverance from the world's trouble. Give him your pain.

Unknown said...

Yes true

Ange said...

Never ending BS. No one gets it only those that suffer it..ive had a good life..then i meet some who destroyed everything i worked hard for..i have nothing now..nothing all due to being taken to dispare and i now have a crimanal record at 50. No one will ever get us.

Celia Franz said...

I agree on the church. Though I am a believer and it helps me to pray and study his word, churches are all about what you can give them nowadays. Its truly sad !!

Celia Franz said...

Yeah, I let everyone drain me...want to save the world so-to-speak. Its very draining...and then nobody wants to save me.

Unknown said...

You could not of said it any better then that. You are 100% right in what you said, there is no other answer that is going to be any clearer. Someone that has not been or going threw this such difficult time literally can not advise or help anyone that has experienced or going threw this painful time in life because they have never felt or witnessed how difficult it actually is to overcome. You comment gas actually helped me. Thank you.

Unknown said...

Has* i ment not gas, sorry.

Anonymous said...

Santana put it the best "I ain't got nobody that I can depend on"

Unknown said...

What a bunch of bs!!! How many people that feel like this has family that cares?

Anonymous said...

Well I just read all these and I too am alone I have been a victim of a very severe scam that has taken my retirement. I feel at times very hopeless because I don't have anything to retire on I'm scared I'm almost at the retirement age and I do have family that I can talk to but I don't know where to turn. I do have faith in the Lord and I asked him every day to give me strength to go through the next day. I feel a lot like you folks these days everyone is out for themselves I have met so many evil people when I was scammed I was trying to find love online big mistake ladies big mistake he took my heart he took my money and he crushed my world. Feeling hopeless is a devastating and the loneliest feeling ever and I do feel lonely even though I hide it mask it with laughter at work. I keep going because that's how I was raised just keep on going brush it under the carpet and deal with it when it comes out. I pray and I will pray for all of you folks. Keep On Keepin On peace

Anonymous said...

my stress comes from being a caregiver to my husband's mother. She acts as if she is helpless and needs help when, in reality, she can do for herself. At age 76, she is still quite independent when she lives in California from Oct-April, but then, she moves in with US from April-Oct and I feel like i am her slave! I don't mind the occasional help, but when she goes too far, meddles in my marriage and more, I just cannot take it anymore!!!! Fatigue? Yes! Depressed? Oh yes! Anger? Most definitely!

Cydney said...

Wow. What in the world is up with the negative comments. If you don't like what was said why are you on here in the first place? How rude! Your attitude demonstrates the kind of person you are and several of you sound like victims of your own choices you choose not to take accountability for. Thanks Dave for uplifting me anyway.

Anonymous said...

Really I let go of my family many moons ago...so they are not likely to help me

Anonymous said...

My daughter was widowed 14 yrs ago during the prime of her life & left with two small children to raise & condsideringly has done well on her own so far. We tell her we love her & will always be there for her, but in her mind we aren't. Her disposition has become so judgemental of others & she is easily aggitated. The family feels like we are walking on eggshells around her to keep from starting an argument. She has let herself go,gained lots of weight which turns most men off. Over the years she has sought counseling several times, but no matter how much we try to lend a shoulder to lean on she is convinced her family doesn't care. I might add that she lives a day's drive from us. After her husband was killed, we encouraged her to move closer to home--not necessarily in the same town, but closer so family could help more & visit more. Instead, she has moved several times further away than the 1st. The family hears nothing but bitching from her either work related, doing everything alone, or about her almost grown children not helping her do things. The family is at a loss on how to help anymore & her attitude has become so straight spokenly callus that few can tolerate being around her. She refuses to believe anyone understands her situation. Family sees it as she created her own lonely situation & has shut family out. No one can make her understand that we truly care about & love her. We have never been a wealthy family & her living so far away limits visitations. Why does she continually build this wall around herself? I realized at first it was so she wouldn't get hurt again, but now that barrier wall is so thick no one can break it down. How do you help someone who continually thinks others don't care? We have listened, tried to be understanding & offer helpful advice ) where she would be more pleasant so that she could find another mate. She almost did find a new mate about 4 years after her husband's death, but found out he was using & cheating on her. So she really clammed up then! She is living in a controlling world controlling world where she is never wrong about anything & refuses helpful advice. The whole family stays concerned about her & the children who now have behavioral problems. I fully understand how her children feel as i lost my because father at a very young age. We would all love to see her let that cold barrier wall down where she would be more pleasant & maybe experience some new happiness. We also try to reinforce her positive aspects. She does stay busy doing different things but most don't include her family or children. Sad seeing her so unhappy all the time. Now & then we do spontaneous things for her like buying her flowers, calling often, giving her children money to buy her gifts for special holidays like Mother's Day & Christmas. We know we can't replace the love of her husband, but we still try to show her we love her & tell her often. If finances weren't so tight, we would visit more, but each trip costs us hundreds of dollars we just don't have. She is callus toward our situation though--poor health and limited income.Her husband always gave her the best so what we can offer isn't good enough. I hope she sees your article and realizes that she can't find happiness again by shutting others out or blaming them for all her problems. There is nothing we want more than to see her happy again! Although I haven't lost my husband, I grew up within a home where the mother did! I saw what it did to her and we always tried to be cooperative and loving and make life easier for her. No one can help her as long as she thinks no one cares. How do we make her realize that family does care? She won't let family in or many friends. She will continue to be alone unless she starts caring more about her look & changes her attitude. When she is more receptive,we all have a great time together. What do we have to do to make her realize she doesn't have to be alone?

♥♥MY CHOICE♥♥ said...

I am not d person I used to be.. I am a ever angry crybaby now.. what shud I do...

Kathy Pettijohn said...

Gee thanks for removing my post...I guess you have to be all happy and upbeat to comment. Reach.out to family, find those good church people? BS for sure

Anonymous said...

Going to family?? I think your assuming the family cares and would help. Only hurts worse cause of the rejection you feel. God Bless.

Anonymous said...

My family was the source of my problems. When the only member of my family that I did love, my mentally handicapped, sister died, and I no longer had to take care of her died, I had the courage to pick myself up and move away from my sick from the rest. I am working on me and trying to be happy.

Anonymous said...

I am in a situation of taking care of 4 family members alone.mom 82yrs and her health is failing her.taking her to her Dr appts. I brought my 36yr old back home who was a complete alcoholic as well as been into drugs of all kinds.he trashed his life! He now has pancreatitis ( chronic),cirrhosis of his liver and he has chronic sezure! And as well he's has a lot more going on! But he's is trying so hard to stay sober. my other son is 34 he joined the Army and seen some pretty horrible things! Was in 2 ied attack And his job was gunner. The one who always has his head poking out the hummer.correct word gunner. Well he got out of the Army after his tour was complete over 10yrs ago,and came home but he wasn't the same son that I knew.I was devastated!! He was broken. Hardly talked.isolated himselp.and very angry! I made several trips to MY to see him &My grandson who OM is going to 9yrs old!And his wife.
Both boys and my mom were all in a crisis at the same time. My youngest on the 4th of july a fire cracker went off he wasn'tready for and went into combat PTSD MANIC EPISODE! He went into combat mode put his life user the kitchen table. And took his unit on a Bergen search throughout their home! He thought he was thinking he was back over in iraq! Took his wife 2hrs to tell him down. To make a long story short my son was complicated suicide by cops but by the grace of GOD! He thought what that would do to his son and wife the cops,swat, and a sniper surrounded his home. Guns drawn got his wife out of the how and to the station to keep her safe. They called my son out. He walks out and had a drink in one hand and his cell in the other. He did every they told him to do and what pissed me off is th VA in sacracruse NY but they didnt want to travel that far, they take him to connuntybehavior center.Honest friends it was a oh so wrong place for him! It was a lock up!we traveled from pa to N.Y. to see my son get all the way up there 6hr drive to where he lives to find out he locked up can only see him for 1hr once in the morning and 1hr in the evening.could not take anthing in the room with you, go behind a locked door after the swipe of wand get unto see him finally and there where Gards every where! I went over to give my son a hugh hug and a kiss!The last we visited was June 3 2017 his wedding day.you know them guards were all over me! I was not allowed to touch him!!my heart broke! My son had a bed and was already registered at the place where he could be treated for the manic episode! Today he still going for treatment 3 ×a week, both sons need to be place as an impatient but dig there hill in and no matter what I say,threaten beg,cry, pray every day and I'm still living this nightmare. I'm running down my mother which




Is 45min ride each way. I take her to all her Dr appointment.she is 82yrs and her health is poor.she is not to be left alone, and thing Are getting harder.first Rob,go to the hospital in full pancreatic attack! Next day my mom needed to be admmited to the same hospital she went into Renal failure.my husband had a major mental breakdown.!He was an ironworker for 40 yrs he retired.well 40yrs slinging iron around working sometimes 6/10 7/12 in every climent When he had all this time he never got interested in his life cause he was a hard 3worker! And now no job to go and all this was to much for him to adapt.he just went over the edge. All of this I am handling this all ALONE! And I M exhausted,burnt out! I need my saviour and carry me ahile

Anonymous said...

Very best answer...you have a friend in God

Unknown said...

I'm where you are and having recently been at a family wedding, surrounded by family, I felt like an island of isolation. I was in treatment 60 miles from home last year and they set me up with a support group for Adult Children of Alcoholics. That wasn't my problem but there is a lot of crossover. These groups are very supportive and not judgemental, I only wish there was one closer. They're very therapeutic and don't cost anything.

Anonymous said...

You are definitely right. Was just saying this to someone. Suicide is a crazy thing but in the mind of someone suffering it feels like the only way out. Battling with your mind, body, emotions. Both in the mental and physical. It hurts bad. no one wants to suffer alone.. but i am here if anyone wants to reach out to a like minded, strong at times but weak individual.

Jennie said...

Thank you for this advice I am currently dealing with this type of situation.

Anonymous said...

I agree with some of what everyone is saying. I have had help from a few of my friends, but the majority say I am sorry you are going through this, but it doesn't go beyond that. But once some of those friends help you they are done with you.My family doesn't care. My brother asked his accountant if he should help me and the accountant said no because I was a user, so he did not help me. This was nine years ago. I am not a user! I worked all my life, fell on hard times and I was so depressed, wanted to kill myself. I was going to someone for help, but co-pay was$75 and I couldn't afford that. I know there is free help I guess. My kids have their lives, so I am an afterthought.

Unknown said...

I lost my hubby after 52 yrs together he was the love of my life have a lot of mixed emotions can't motivate myself to do anything it's hard to face the outside world but hopefully in time things will improve.

Unknown said...

Detachment is better for me. Just makes it easier!

Anonymous said...

Honestly family is the first to judge you ,and pin point how many things you did wrong ,and who could you trust but only your self , suicide rate is so up because everyone is always trying to satisfy everyone else but them self ,and if you tell anyone you are feeling this way they are always so quick to judge , who can you trust ? That is how I feel..

Sarah Sullivan said...

You are correct in your theory for the most, However....and this is so important...You have made several serious errors in grammar that the article may not be read by those who truly should read it. It will simply become frustrating to them and they will just put it down, stop reading it.
I seriously hope you re-write it and re-post it.
Sarah Sullivan

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