Saturday, August 15, 2015

Stop Bullying - Bullying is wrong!

Bullying is wrong and even in today’s world we are still hearing of severe and fatal cases of bullying that simply should not have occurred.

Bullying myths and facts

There are many myths surrounding bullying issues and some of these myths can often trivialize bullying and suggest the bullied individual is making a big deal out of nothing when actually that is not the case.
This can undermine how a person feels if they are being bullied. Bullying should not be tolerated in any form. We believe it is important to address bullying whether it is in a workplace, school or in the community so that the message is clear that bullying is unacceptable.

The myths and facts below can be a great discussion point to raise awareness of bullying with children and young people.

Myth: Bullying is a normal part of childhood
and you should just ignore it

Fact: Bullying is not "normal" or acceptable in any form and ignoring might not always make it stop. If you can, please confide in someone you trust such as a parent or teacher to help you get it stopped. Bullying can knock your self-esteem and confidence.

Myth: It is ok to hit someone who is bullying you, it will stop it

Fact: It’s understandable that you may be angry but if you were to get violent or aggressive it may make matters much worse as you may get into trouble too.

Myth: Bullies are born this way, it’s in their genes

Fact: Bullies often adopt this behavior from their environment or sometimes, it’s a reaction from them being bullied by others. Whatever the case, it is not right.

Myth: Bullying only happens in schools

Fact: This is not the case at all, bullying can happen to anyone at any place. It may be out of school, at university or even college. It can happen when you are out with mates or on the way to or from school.

Myth: You can spot a bully from the way they look and act

Fact: There is no such thing as a way a bully looks or acts. There is no specific dress code or behavior code.

Myth: Online bullying is just banter and harmless

Fact: People being bullied online is a very serious issue, the bullying can go viral very quickly and make the problem escalate quickly. It is important to take a screenshot of any conversations, messages or posts that you feel are bullying so that you have a record.

Myth: Cyber bullying doesn't involve physical harm
so what's the harm?

Fact: Actually, some people have committed suicide as a result of not seeing any way out of the non-stop harassment, threats and abuses. The emotional scarring stays for a lot longer and sometimes a person will never get over this. Some websites allow people to post anonymously which can mean it is very hard to stop this abuse.

Myth: Cyber bullying can only affect someone if they are online and have an account too

Fact: This is not true, we often hear of pages and fake accounts being created without person’s permission or knowledge. This sort of cyber bullying is on the increase and just as serious as any other form of bullying.

Myth: It's not bullying if someone deletes the comment or post

Fact: Regardless of hitting delete, once something is posted online is gets its own unique URL which means that it can stay on cyberspace even if you hit delete.

Myth: If bullying is so bad, why don't they have laws about it?

Fact: Some forms of bullying are illegal and should be reported to the police including violence or assault, theft, repeated harassment or intimidation, e.g. Threats and abusive phone calls, emails or text messages and hate crimes.

Myth: Reporting a bully will make things worse

Fact: You may worry that reporting a bully might make the bullying escalate or they feel they are not believed. It is important to confide in someone you trust so that you can have some help in getting the necessary support to get this stopped.

Myth: It is easy to spot the signs of bullying

Fact: It is not always easy to identify the signs of bullying as it is not always physical and obvious. Emotional, verbal and online bullying can often leave scars that people don’t see.

Myth: Children grow out of bullying

Fact: Quite often children who bully may grow up to be adults who bully or use negative behavior to get what they want, unless there has been intervention and their behavior challenged by the relevant authorities, whether it be school or parents, etc.
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Fay B. Bolton said...

This is Great! I went ahead and shared your post on the BoBully Foundation FB page. Thanks!

Marion said...

My son has been bullied for a year school is not interested and police laughed in my face who can we turn too I'm scared for my son's state of mind,he has already tried to hang himself over bullying

Leah said...

Marion, your son needs help. You local mental health center could be contacted for counseling. No child should have to experience being bullied.

I think the myths in this article have been protrayed well.

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

I'm 57 years old and having watched a "friend" of mine bully a girl in gym class because of her weight, and not doing anything about it has haunted me my whole life! This was in high school! And the bullying was brutal. But I was too cowardly to say anything. I'm sorry Lori bunis for not coming to your defense. ��

Anonymous said...

Bullying the worst thing when you are a child, and it can continue, the feelings stay with you...........the memories. Bullies will always be out there sadly.....

Anonymous said...

The saying that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me, has no comprehension at all of the great harm done by words! Injuries from sticks and stones can heal, but the wounds from words can do so much more harm and can destroy a person's sense of self worth!

Anonymous said...

I'm 77 years old and I still have inner pain from having been bullied as a child!!!!! I've forgiven the perpetrators, but the scars are deep!!!!

Anonymous said...

Don't forget about bullying in the workplace.

Anonymous said...

Bullying can happen in the workplace as well, as I have found out. I am feeling better now I have left my job and had some time to heal and rest.

Anonymous said...

They should also add to this comment that bullying can be right at home. An older sibling made bully another sibling or perhaps a mother’s new husband, or a father’s new wife. That should be added as a fact. And you can say that the myth is oh well we’re a family this is what we do

Anonymous said...

God bless you. A bad work environment can create bad job performances and total unhappiness. I pray you find what you’re looking for.

Anonymous said...

I am currently being bullied at work, it makes me feel depressed and suicidal but I have just reached out to a friend to talk to and we are having coffee tomorrow

Anonymous said...

I think this was helpful but I really feel like the workplace is alos where bullying happens.

Anonymous said...

Thank yiu for clearing up all of those HUUUGE myths. I alos totes agree! Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will snap my feelings like a twig!!!

Unknown said...

My bullies knew when I reported it. They just doubled down. Absolutely nobody was o my side, and I had to leave school.

Anonymous said...

I shared it my granddaughter has been bullying in school and on text and video I've told her to keep everything out Scholl just don't seem to care she been called the Ni__r they are using racial slurs there are 4 girls in this small town that torment her just about everyday by posting this on community page there parents and the school will see how serious it is thank you for sharing