tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post1309441152673799866..comments2024-03-28T05:08:20.305+00:00Comments on Daveswordsofwisdom.com: Child Abuse - Breaking The SilenceDave Hedgeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07768336193428300898noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-25977178051946112682023-06-05T16:20:52.039+01:002023-06-05T16:20:52.039+01:00Don’t ever give up. Life is a long time to be stuc...Don’t ever give up. Life is a long time to be stuck with this running through your mind. Try and leave the past where it belongs. Finished. It’s over now. You have the abilities to choose how react to your adversity. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-91390023897202726802018-04-22T21:02:16.308+01:002018-04-22T21:02:16.308+01:00I have been a victim of child abuse. That fear nev...I have been a victim of child abuse. That fear never leaves me though I am not a child anymore and still lives with him.. I have never felt secured ever in my life. Beaten so many times for no reason and humiliated infront of my friends and anyone I was socially connected. It scarred me for life. I still feel threatened by men around who might beat me if I get into a relation with any of them. He sucked all the confidence and made my childhood a nightmare. Its a very unusual feel when people treat you with respect and worth as I am not used to it. Its probably a grief that will only end with my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-66212825809053195692013-12-28T18:05:05.193+00:002013-12-28T18:05:05.193+00:00I think that if you don't have anything positi...I think that if you don't have anything positive to say then be quiet. And all the brave people on this site I admire you. Ignore people who are horrible don't give them any time. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-35175214680420604892013-11-17T00:58:13.387+00:002013-11-17T00:58:13.387+00:00People just have no idea the scale of abuse that i...People just have no idea the scale of abuse that is happening to children not just in this country but country,s all over the world for every video these scum watch that is someone,s child being abused they are sick and dont care that those children,s lives are being ruined .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-81099102575426830312013-11-17T00:03:02.198+00:002013-11-17T00:03:02.198+00:00I totally agree with you. Has this person never he...I totally agree with you. Has this person never heard of dyslexia although there are a few who make false allegations most are true and takes a great deal of courage to come forward so please think before you speakAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-82702743496563971032013-10-06T03:39:59.886+01:002013-10-06T03:39:59.886+01:00David, Thank you for bringing forth awareness abou...David, Thank you for bringing forth awareness about this horrible scourge on the most innocent of our citizens, and on our society as a whole. The statistics, number of people who have been abused are staggering.Here in London, Canada I host a "Learning and Support Group for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse". We gather to dispel myths, gain knowledge, get questions answered respectfully, and find comfort in knowing we are not alone. I am also a survivor of all four types of child abuse, over more than 15 years, by both parents. My healing process was a long journey, and at the end of several years of therapy, my former therapist asked me to write a book. It is titled "HOPE for Survivors of Childhood Abuse"; an autobiographical Work Book of healing, which I am pleased to say has been put in the resource library of our Police College in Aylmer, Ontario, Canada. As a professional life coach I work with people who are struggling with deep emotional and self-esteem issues, many of who have been abused. It was actually a client who directed me to this site. For any who may be interested in working with me, in a safe environment, whether in person or over the phone (land-lines only outside of Canada), please visit my website for more information: www.sheilastevensongroup.com. I was worth being healed. You are worth being healed. You deserve the best that life has to offer you. Believe it. Get help. Please...get help, and take the power away from the perpetrator.<br />Again, David, thank you. As we join together to bring awareness and break the silence, we have hope of stopping child abuse. That will be a great day!www.sheilastevensongroup.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-33924224027793640822013-09-25T22:57:57.526+01:002013-09-25T22:57:57.526+01:00i am dealing with this at the moment with my own c...i am dealing with this at the moment with my own children. i was also abused by my ex husband and now he thinks it is ok to abuse my children. i have three away from him and trying to get the other two away from him too. alot of abuse is related to drugs and alcohol. this man is under investigation for sexual sins also so my heart goes out to you for the suffering you had to go through but like me you can rise above it.i too was a victim as a child to an abuser but these days i am stronger and good on you for turning into a beautiful butterfly. have a great day pat and god blessAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-1382397274512185062013-08-29T22:41:26.591+01:002013-08-29T22:41:26.591+01:00i also am survivor of sexuall abuse by an older b...i also am survivor of sexuall abuse by an older brother I was about 11 when it started till about 15 for the next 10yrs I blamed myself the doubt was always there that I asked for it to happen because I never said no to him I also started doubting my sexuality at age of 26 and still a virgin I met my angel whom I have been now married to for 24yr in the beginning I kept it bottled up inside then one night I blurted out to her what had happened to me as a child she never spoke about it to me but believed me told me she was there for me anytime I needed her I have tried on many occasions to seek professional help but always stopped myself as I find it very hard to open up with strangers the ppl who say u will get over it eventually trust me u don't theres not a day goes by that I think what I done to deserve it I could sit here writing all night but tears r building up I have never spoken to my brother since and will never forgive him I see him but to me he died all those years agoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-84650449140063316102013-08-22T02:58:03.344+01:002013-08-22T02:58:03.344+01:00Thank You Dave!!!Thank You Dave!!!Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-4038873247945775792013-08-22T02:56:20.865+01:002013-08-22T02:56:20.865+01:00Dave, I am an adult survivor who did not get the h...Dave, I am an adult survivor who did not get the help until I was in my mid 20`s. I was sexually abused by more than one person from age 6 until I was 14. It has been hard but it has also made me the strong person I am today. To everyone who reads these posts.....you are NOT alone! There are many, many people of all ages, races, male, female, you name it but we all have dealt with many different forms of abuse & must stick together even if it is on a beautifuL page someone has taken the time to put together for us to vent. Yes there is going to be negative things said against us but chin up! We are better than those who decide to come on here & degrade us. May God Bless you aLL!Denisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-30402293070322667202013-08-22T02:42:13.294+01:002013-08-22T02:42:13.294+01:00All I can say is you are a heartless person.All I can say is you are a heartless person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-6410852110263093042013-08-17T22:18:58.354+01:002013-08-17T22:18:58.354+01:00The wounds to your heart and mind don't really...The wounds to your heart and mind don't really heal. They just get covered up by scar tissue and every once in a while they bust open again. Never withhold your love from a child just because they did something you didn't approve of. Don't put them down or abandon them. Keep your hands to yourself they are not beating posts or sexual toys. They are gifts from God and should be cherished and not seen as an inconvenience and made to feel unloved and unwanted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-87095548794919817892013-08-17T18:41:24.687+01:002013-08-17T18:41:24.687+01:00I am almost 69 years of age. I was sexually, emoti...I am almost 69 years of age. I was sexually, emotionally, and physically abused by my father with mother's approval. My father died last year. Yes, I still hated him and he knew it. No I never told him what I thought of him (out of respect for his old age). I attended the funeral, but could not go to the burial site until weeks later. My siblings have turned against me, but I expected that. They had not gone through what I had. My mother apologized to me for her actions toward me prior to her death, but my father never did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-41283972916443697432013-08-04T00:44:11.726+01:002013-08-04T00:44:11.726+01:00I am so sorry for your loss! I will never know the...I am so sorry for your loss! I will never know the pain you are going through but know that you have an amazing guardian angel looking over you! God Bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-8146568495242731192013-08-04T00:41:52.271+01:002013-08-04T00:41:52.271+01:00Thank you for sharing this article, I am a victim ...Thank you for sharing this article, I am a victim of sexual abuse by my Father, yes the one person that a little girl is supposed to cherish! It happened when I was 14 and continued until I was 18. I started seeing the same signs that I went through with my brother and I refused for it to happen to him. I immediately went to the police and made a report, because I did not want my brother to go to the pain I went through. After the charges came out I lost my whole family, my brother doesn't speak to me, and my Mom thinks I had it coming. Because of this I have PTSD, Panic Attacks, and Agoraphobia. I always thought that I was the only person this has ever happened to until I started sharing my story. My Father doesn't blame me he knows I am a victim of his sickness. I am a survivor and I can live each day knowing that I saved my Brother from this abuse and I wish that this wouldn't have happened but as the Lord says things happen for a reason and I am stronger because I survived this! Every single one of you is a blessing and although we will never know why us, we can be stronger knowing we survived this. God Bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-86049432395541357012013-08-03T23:59:43.881+01:002013-08-03T23:59:43.881+01:00Hugs to you for telling the truth that people need...Hugs to you for telling the truth that people need to know. At age 5, l was a State Ward in Care.... No explanation needed lm sure. In Australia, we now have a Royal Commission now. Took us yeas of petitioning. A support system set up by Prime Minister Kevin Rudd is www.openplace.org.au counselling is provided. Other services are minimal cost. You have done an amazing feat in having the boldness to speak. Thank-you in Grace. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-83140447022254477162013-07-23T09:55:01.922+01:002013-07-23T09:55:01.922+01:00Thank you Kat Venes for putting it so well. People...Thank you Kat Venes for putting it so well. People who don't understand have no idea how fortunate they are. The only way to truly understand what it is like is to have lived through it. I even had a repressed memory come back to me. I'm glad I was at work when it happened because it gave me something else to concentrate on. By the time I had the time to fully process it I had gotten over the shock, otherwise I would have probably had another panic attack. Most people only recognize the physical signs of abuse, but the physical scars are minor compared to the emotional ones. They don't understand why we have trouble trusting, or why we seem "standoffish". Why don't we make friends easily, and so many other things. My one teacher in high school wrote in my senior year book, "A little shy, but shyness never hurt anyone". If only she knew. I wasn't "shy", I was scared to death to do or say anything my father might disapprove of. It was safer to keep me eyes down and my mouth shut. Now I walk with my eyes up and look at people in the eye, but it is a constant struggle everyday. Sometimes it seems I take one step forward and two steps back, but then I stop, remind my self that I am worthy, and start moving forward again. By the way, I no longer have panic attacks, I've removed the people from my life who were the cause of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-11099932846356692102013-07-19T13:20:07.014+01:002013-07-19T13:20:07.014+01:00Jaime Johnson may I share your comment on my fb as...Jaime Johnson may I share your comment on my fb as I have a similar story and are just coming out of the end of a terrible tragedy in my own family and I would like to quote what you and your paster has said because it is so relevant Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-91457810915039499762013-07-19T02:24:35.423+01:002013-07-19T02:24:35.423+01:00I was also abused all of my childhood. I was abuse...I was also abused all of my childhood. I was abused by both parents, physically by my dad, emotionally by my mom and sexually by trusted adults. I was later abused by my ex-husband. I am a survivor. I have been in counseling now off and on for 30 years. I have good days and some bad days. I deal with anxiety, panic attacks and depression almost every day, even with counseling and medications. I have c-ptsd and struggle every day but I am a survivor. I volunteer at the organization that has the shelter I escaped my abusive ex-husband to for 17 years now. I volunteer because for most of my life I tried to get help but no one helped me, not the police, not teachers, not neighbors or friends. Much later I had a chilhood friend tell me they knew what was going on when I went to school all black and blue and her parents had thought I would commit suicide because they knew the abuse was really bad, but no one helped me. I called the police frequently for help, there many times my father spent a night in jail or a hospital to get sober and he even was taken out in a strait jacket. He was so violent that the police came all the time with several officers. I still did not get help. I volunteer because I don't want anyone to go through what I did and not be able to get help. I still have difficulty trusting anyone and live with my dog. I sure understand why vets with ptsd can get therapy dogs, I don't know what I would do without my dog. I struggle every day but I am a survivor and anyone that thinks that child abuse doesn't affect you for the rest of your life has no idea what it is like.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-73759996373449581102013-07-16T11:54:54.658+01:002013-07-16T11:54:54.658+01:00i was abuse when i was little I am an adult now an... i was abuse when i was little I am an adult now and only just told my family what happend 2 me. This pain i feel all days every day is to much. My family have been really good with me but i still feel so alone on my journey so weak worthless dirty I can't help but think of myself as damaged goods.not sure i can get through this pain its to hard Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-10903679025153470382013-07-08T19:11:44.838+01:002013-07-08T19:11:44.838+01:00I hate child abuse you don't want to know what...I hate child abuse you don't want to know what I would like to do to them feel sorry for all the kid that have been abuse I was never abuse like that bitch that kill her kid in the bath tub they give her life then change it to live in a nut houseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-67427959021789851542013-06-17T03:53:23.569+01:002013-06-17T03:53:23.569+01:00My website is www.paulabakerauthor.comMy website is www.paulabakerauthor.comPaula Bakernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-33228286348142071742013-06-17T03:49:42.314+01:002013-06-17T03:49:42.314+01:00It continues to amaze me at the number of people t...It continues to amaze me at the number of people that have endured the atrocities of child abuse and the amount of it that is still happening in today's world. I just published a novel about a young girl that was abused from age 3 thru 18. It is published as fiction and many people have asked me how I managed to write such a powerful book ... I just tell them it was "inspired" by true events. Truth?? I lived it. I have to say in reading many of these posts it made me very happy to hear many of you call yourselves "survivors". I too feel that way and am so thankful that I finally chose, on my own, to seek professional help to rid myself of the demons that nearly took my mind. If any of you out there are still suffering, PLEASE .. seek help .. it's out there, I promise. I "didn't tell" either until I was nearly 40 years old but thank the good Lord I finally did. I'm not sure where I'd be today if I hadn't. I have a beautiful family, I'm happy and strong, and the ghosts/demons of the past are just that .. the past! If you've been to a therapist and you don't think it has helped, find another one! There really are some wonderful doctors and therapists out there that can help you. Please seek help ... don't let yourself be destroyed by your abusers .. don't let them win! My heart is truly breaking for all of you but you CAN be whole again ..don't give up hope!! If I can ever be of any assistance I can be contacted on my website which I hope prints out here. Many, many thanks to Dave Hedges and this site ... it helps to just be able to talk about it sometimes. May God be with you all!!Paula Bakerhttp://www.paulabakerauthor.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-12938897633940289272013-06-16T00:57:13.171+01:002013-06-16T00:57:13.171+01:00Some of you think that every little thing is abuse...Some of you think that every little thing is abuse. If someone gets on to their child in public, if they yell at their child or if the spank their child. I was spanked as a child, and when I was a teen I was sat on by my mom while she hit me multiple times. She did not break anything. I don't hate her for it and I don't need therapy for that. I may need therapy for my step-dad putting his hands where they didn't belong. And whomever posted May 5th, 2013 @ 11:27 am, you need to use spell check, b/c too many of your words are incorrect and you are an adult. Sometimes parents stick their nose where it doesn't belong, they think they know what is going on when they do not. Don't congratulate when you do not have the entire story. I have dealt with DCF, from people who do not know, my children had to endure a complete invasion of their privacy b/c of a school teachers wrongful accusation. DCF came to my home, spoke with me, inspected my entire home, my oldest child had to be viewed by their doctor who took pictures of his body, all because he had a scratch (from the cat, which he told the teacher and the teacher did not believe him). Just like when my mom punched me in the face when I was 27, I had put a temporary restraining order against her and my coworkers at first thought it was my spouse. People you need to know for sure what you are reporting before you do it. False reports cause too much heartache, and overload our system when the system needs to be working on REAL CASES!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8847623571218447022.post-36674356462214868702013-06-01T07:39:17.854+01:002013-06-01T07:39:17.854+01:00I lost my grandaughter to child abuse at 2 1/2 yea...I lost my grandaughter to child abuse at 2 1/2 years old and am still heart broken to this day... please go to her website and read and share her site with others. <br /> http://kimslittleangel.webs.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com