Friday, October 18, 2013

Domestic Violence Awareness Month - October 2013



PLEASE READ: August is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.


We had our first argument last night, and he said loads of cruel things that really hurt me. I KNOW he's sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. 

I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare, I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he MUST be sorry because he sent me flowers today. 

I got flowers today; it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again; it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him but scared to leave. But I know he MUST be sorry because he sent me flowers today. 

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage to leave him, I wouldn't have gotten flowers today. 

If YOU are against Domestic Abuse, please share this powerful post to show support and promote awareness ~ I just did <3

Below are some useful and helpful websites
you can access for more information, support
or courage to take positive steps.

http://www.national-awareness-days.com/domestic-violence-awareness-month.html

http://www.nrcdv.org/dvam/


Please feel free to add further useful or helpful sites in the comments section.

63 comments:

Anonymous said...

Been there done that. I just got tired of being his punching bag. He still till this day does not take responsibility for what he has done to me. Haven't been with him in 5 years and now with someone who treats me with respect.

Anonymous said...

I am six months out of a 10 year verbally and emotionally destructive relationship - says it was all me that had to do the work - told me I was beyond hope and hit me our first Christmas together; started because I wanted to play outside in the snow! Escalated to being slapped and thrown out of his apartment - he phoned 2 days later and apologized saying me he had never done that before and said I drove him to it...he convinced me over the next 8 years it was my fault because he knew no other way to deal with me. Shows where my self esteem was at that I stayed so long - including offering to move in together when he was financially ruined - thankfully it was his idea that we separate 3 years later - of which I pleaded...for about 5 minutes.....Then gleefully started looking for another apt and planning how I would decorate and finally get to use my own dishes (they were pink) - I now run to get home instead of walking the streets until he would be in bed - and have found a friend who makes me feel like I am living the fairy tale life we all dream of and read about as children! God Bless Victim Services for helping me out the door and onto a life of happiness - tears of joy and laughing out loud!

Lisa Allen said...

Thank God for. First Step Program

Eastexfisherman said...

Thanks for the reminder; it is my favorite time of the year. This means it is slap yo wife time whether she needs it or not for good measure just to show her who's boss?

Armageddon said...

IDIOT!

taubs07 said...

if yu have to put yur hands on a female yur not a man yur alil boy....who needs to grow up and learn how to treat a lady...

Anonymous said...

eastexfisherman you need a good punch in the mouth not a slap!! idiot fool

Anonymous said...

I'm about three years out of a verbal and physical 14 year one from him and his mom. I was terrified of leaving but finally got the courage. I thank god every day for the courage he gave me and still does. I'm the happiest I have been in a very long time and have a great husband to share it with.

Anonymous said...

tour a real asshole

Anonymous said...

I'm into my 13th year away from my ex-husband and although he's getting married next year, she has called my house begging for help as I'm "the only one who understands what she's going through". My ex has said he will get me back and my regret is that I didn't run sooner with my sons from this pathetic excuse who refuses to see what he did wrong (physical & emotional abuse of me & his sons, keeping us pennyless, affairs etc. I work with women & young people who've been abused and men who are abusing. There is hope at the end of the tunnel but it's still difficult as this is still a taboo subject and many refuse to believe especially as abusers appear lovely to the outside world.

Anonymous said...

May your wife find herself a real man, instead of the angry closet homosexual she is living with now!

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh it's so true. Abusers are the most likeable and charming people at times. Everyone believes that you are the crazy one. Finally after leaving time after time I have found the courage to walk my own path. 10 wasted years. So many broken relationships with friends and family. He has isolated me so completely that my phone is silent. I am completely alone most of the time. I am working hard on changing that. I am working two jobs, and moving into the city at the end of this month. I may be down, but not beaten. Women need to stop allowing men with no sense of honour, no self control, no empathy, to use us. They do not care, you are just a soft place to land when the party is over. I wish I could have gotten away sooner. I will also post as anonymous, I am ashamed of what I lived.

Anonymous said...

I was in an very abusive relationships for 25 years. After I left him my daughter told me that she and her sister and brother were more screwed up now than they would have been if I had had the courage to leave when they were little.

Anonymous said...

Your an asshole

Anonymous said...

I spent 34yrs. With my abusive husnand i hid it from my family but now i have found someone who treats me right and with respect i now know what its like to be happy and in love.

Anonymous said...

I was in an abusive marriage for 34yrs. He just recently passed away but now im with someone that treats me right and loves me i now know what it feels like to be happy and in love.

sherry maggio said...

my daughter was with an abuser she put him in jail today!!!!! it was the best birthday present i ever got in my life so please know you dont have to live that life there is hope. my daughter & grandson are my world

Anonymous said...

JUST REMEMBER.....you have to sleep sometime!

Anonymous said...

been there done that got the hell out ! will not put up with it again ! like one said in here ya gotta sleep .

Anonymous said...

For every hit you lay on a woman may a bone break in your hand and your arms become too weak to lift above your waist. May you bear the words of shame you lay upon her ears by becoming too heavy to lift yourself from the repair you caused her.

Anonymous said...

BASTERD

Anonymous said...

Ive been in my marriage same amount or years Im to weak to leave Its bad to say to myself I wish he would pass away im so unhappy all these years.

nandhini said...

Hats off! Not many have the courage. Proud of you,happy for you

Anonymous said...

Fixin to leave a persistent gaslighter and emotional blackmailer. My eyes were opened and i cant wait til im gone!

Anonymous said...

been there not just physical but mentally as well took a long time to get over and get my self respect back

Anonymous said...

this is very true for Asian women especially in India where divorce is a stigma to the women family and she will not be accepted in the family nor in the society.no option either to end life or suffer whole of yr.life.

Anonymous said...

I gave my SOB 54 yrs to change , he only got worse. SO I DIVORCED HIM

Poelover said...

Good for you for having the courage to take that step! Glad you're safe and happy now!

Poelover said...

Congratulations on finding your freedom!! I wish you a lifetime of dreams lived, fairy tales come true, and simple happiness in everyday things!

Poelover said...

May all the love you show to others be returned 10 times over. Don't know if you're a sociopath or just stupid, but good luck with that Karma thing.....

Anonymous said...

me too! my ex abused me for many years of our marriage...all forms...emotional, verbal, physical and sexual...I finally got sick of the abuse and left. Even after working so hard for many years to obtain the things I have had....possessions were nolonger important to me...my self esteem, self worth, health was more important....I am also now with a great man that goes to many lengths to make sure I am happy and safe and I nolonger have to worry about being abused in any way,

Jeff MARSHALL said...

Exeastfisherpunk if it is true what you are saying and your not afraid to admit it,than why not post your address and I promise I'll show you what a real ads whooping is.You worthless piece of shit no balls redneck toothless trailer trash pussy ads coward

Anonymous said...

COWARD!!!

Anonymous said...

I can't believe how stupid i was but i married my childhood sweetheart. However he had smoked dope for many years and his personality totally changed. He abused me sexually, emotionally and physically. I was a nervous wreck, I even went to work the day after he raped me just to get away from him.
I thought i had met a lovely person, hes kind and will do anything for my freinds and family. He sufferes with mental health problems and I have supported him throughout, even to the point where my work has suffered. Over the last month however I have caught him checking my mobile, he said he did not know what he was looking for and said he would not do it again. This weekend also he got drunk at my friends house and tried to get in to bed with them. I stayed at home because i don't want to drink heavily as I would like to start a family. My friend contacted me and stated he had tried to get in to bed with her and another friend and overstepped the mark. When I confronted him he said my friends are lying (typical). I know they have not lied. I confronted him when I collected my car and he lied to me, denying everything. I took the car home and he repeatedly contacted me screaming i was an idiot for making him walk home in the cold. When he got home he started to behave totally out of charactersmashing things up throwing things at me and went to hit me. The police even arrived as my friends made contact stating when he left he was very sinister!!
is it me? am i doing something wrong? i sometimes feel i'm causing men to behave this way towards me!

Anonymous said...

Please don't even think about having a child until you have your own life in order, and stay away from the second guy no matter what he promises or what he says about you. For the baby's sake, ALL drinking and drugs are off limit when and if you do get pregnant.

Anonymous said...

Maybe the boy need to educated, Get a dose of his own treatment, above and beyond till he learns!

Anonymous said...

Good u lft him i ddt it 2. It was hard @ ist as many sd how can u leave a man 4 anada women bt dey ddnt understand, dey sd y dnt i jst leave dat house wen m a corpse imagine everyday i wd b his punching bag, what abt verbal iyoh m free now m nt working struggle with a place 2 stay bt God provides. Dnt b a victim jst leave while u can.

Anonymous said...

You asked so I will respond. You have to change the way u feel about urself. You will seek out men with this type of behavior until you grow your self-esteem, and start to love yourself. If you don't respect u how could u expect anyone else to. Counseling is a good place to start. Usually when we allow ourselves to take that abuse there is some thing deep down inside that is the root of our self worth. You deserve more and always remember that the Lord is there call on him. God Bless

Anonymous said...

my wife was abused by two husbands and she says the third time is the charm and that's me they are lucky I don't havea hitman to hire im Italian and they would be wearing cement shoes

Anonymous said...

So sad

Anonymous said...

Thats the way to tell him. Coward of all cowards. Karma is a bitch

Anonymous said...

U may think it's hard to leave.I to was like that.but I walked away in the end.better to have a life then to have it taken from me.

Anonymous said...

men real men dont hit women.only cowards hit women

Anonymous said...

I'm in a 17 year emotional and mental relationship I'm scared to leave he says its my fault checks my email reads my texts plz help I fear I'm lost forever

Anonymous said...

I went with a freind and now he says im cheating. He offered me on Craigslist to people for sexual favors lies about it and then says he loves me how do I break free

Anonymous said...

God bless you and be happy.

Anonymous said...

Iv neen there this thanksgivin will b a year i broke free lots scares n mental abuse but the day after i fought my x off and his mom allmost strangled me to death next day i jumped out of movin vehical goin 45 mph a lady called cops thay showed up at house n i finally asked for help n have been happy now my son has his mommy bak n I'm not 10 feet under thanks to god n the cops if u really wanna leave talk to cops n if u can't lik i couldn't than if u hav friends tell um to help there even hot lines there's women shelters for u and ur kids i can try n help or at least talk to n listen i no how it feels my name is dawn salcido look me up we can talk

Anonymous said...

My daughter was in what we thought was a secure, loving relationship. Truth be told...he was a married man with 4 kids. He was a medical doctor...someone who took an oath to protect. Once she found out, she broke the relationship off. 7 weeks later he followed her to a new relationships home...words were exchanged....he pulled out a gun...and shot her! Then turned the gun on himself. In hindsight, what ee thought was a good relationship was actially a very posessive one. All women should beware. You are your own person....no one owns you! On behalf of Lindsay if telling her story saves one person...it is worth sharing.

Anonymous said...

Karma's a BITCH! You WILL get what's coming to you in the end...just remember that ASSHOLE!!!!!

Anonymous said...

I left mine too. He blamed me for everything. I still struggle with letting go even though its safer for my daughter and I.

Anonymous said...

Was also in a physical,verbal,and sexually abusive relationship with my first husband 4 years,had to bury 2 baby boys that were beaten out of me,have now been with my loving husband no.2 for 18 years,so thankful I got out alive

Anonymous said...

Not one of the post I read was a man getting beaten by a woman, what's up with that? they're over 28 percent of men that get beat up by there female and do not say a word about it because of their pride or whatever. Amercans have a segregated boat opinion about abuse against; but what about the other way? Think about that. and another thing to think about is there more female felons then male felons. I do however, I think it is really too bad that women do get beat on and abused .

Anonymous said...

Don't go back! They never change, any change, if any ,is not long lived and fake. Went through abuse and promises of better along with sorrow and regret for 14 years and still stayed the same. Im better now i'm not brainwashed by him anymore! Bless you! =)

Anonymous said...

Was also abused, physically, mentally, emotionally you name it I got all. Thrown out of the house at odd hours and would return after being assured he would change and begged for mercy so many times. The last time he told me to go I did and never returned. That was three years ago after 22 years of marriage. I'm glad I did it. They never change. I had no idea what a good night sleep felt like, now that I do I would never give that freedom away for anyone.

deliahangel said...

Thanks for sharing!

Anonymous said...

Dear wife beater, I am married to wonderful God fearing man who carries me on his hands. He loves me and he treats me with respect. God honours him for that. He is respected and blessed beyond measure. He is a strong courageous man and I feel safe with him where ever we go. We are best friends and I will cook and clean and support him wherever I can. We have a covenant before God not a partnership. We have great sex and flirt with each other all the time. We stand as one and are blessed as one. We pray together, play playstation together and indulge in chocolate together. It is amazing, beaitiful and sooo much fun. He is what you would call a man. The very image of God. You made in that same image. I pray God gives you a chance to repent, before you get dragged off to hell and get tormented for eternity.

Anonymous said...

U are an asshole sonofabitch...abused women should have the right to slap back without threat of jail!!! been. there done that.

Anonymous said...

Please do NOT stay.... U need to seek help thru Yellow Brick House & or VICTIM SERVICES within your community. GGoogle or look up in Government Blue pages.
They helped me get out of a 17 year abusive relationship also.

You can do it...

Anonymous said...

I was in the same situation, even though i left i still copped it from him. Saying everything that i said about him with verbal abuse was not true. I still don,t feel safe when i am home alone i always keep my house locked because he is one i can never trust again.My dvo runs out soon but will be having another one on him, I,m finished with him because i don,t want him in my life again and i have met someone that treats me well and takes me to places i have never been to before.

Anonymous said...

I helped my twin get out of a emotionally draining and physical relationship. His ex girlfriend was a beautiful woman ,kind,sweet to his family and willing to help out with all our family stuff. One night he wasn't answering his phone so I went to his apartment to check on him. He was laying outside. He was unconscious. I went into the apartment to call 911and she was laying on the couch eating chips and watching tv. I couldn't believe it I asked if she knew where my twin was and she started crying sating that he yelled at her and left. So I called the cops and tried to wake up my twin he was coughing blood but started responding. When the ambulance got there his voice was broken he couldn't speak had broken ribs and a head fracture. She almost killed him when the cops went inside his girl had slit her wrists and attacked the police officer with the knife saying that he(the officer) was trying to kill her. Wow.. Well after this my twin opened up about how for the last couple years she had been abusing him. If she didn't attack the officer they would have never believed that she could have done that. So women have over powered men so this month is about both sexes. My twin is an mma fighter and registered boxer. He has never raised his hand to a woman but he has been attacked by a woman and almost killed sometimes all it takes is someone who cares to notice that something is wrong.it was almost his death that drove him to leave this perfect woman.

Anonymous said...

You are so young! DO NOT STAY - THIS BEHAVIOUR IS NOT NORMAL. GET AWAY AND GET AWAY NOW!!!! There are places to help you - call them!

Anonymous said...

Yes how true in jan I defended my self dude got scratch on eye cops arrested me for simple assault literally made me look bad handcuffs n shackles now im like 120 lb girl n husband was in Marine corps n an ex correction officer I have no self defense training cops show up I have torn up sweatshirt exposing pretty much everything story he gave must been a great one charged me simple assault while detained bruises show up cop say if more show next cpl days call he take pics of bruises I slept first day at my brother woke up next day hurt bad went er I have 2 ribs broke in 2 places so 4 breaks total n a punctured lung told hospital it was de beat n assured me called officer handlin my case well guess they didn't care no one showed up for injuries n severe pain for 3 months I still had charges n court deal with n possiblity of jail because of his status so if u defend urself n the man has right status u never gonna win i guess next time ill not raise finger n let him finish the job in this position I face I leave im threated if I stay I either die or will have life time record n he relishes in this holds it against me right this moment I have bite on arm n he said go ahead I tell em u hit me punch me n hell make marks on himself I dont stand a chance in he

Anonymous said...

Get out he won't change. There is something wrong with him. Not you