Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Time Changes Nothing


Death changes everything,
Time changes nothing.
I still miss the sound of your voice,
the wisdom in your advice,
the stories of your life and
just being in your presence.
So no, time changes nothing.
I miss you just as much today
as I did the day you died.
I just miss you.

75 comments:

Anonymous said...

Very true, there is nothing in life then being with the person whom we love the most.

Anonymous said...

Dear Junior

It was a year ago you died. I miss you and wish you were here. Love you forever.

Suzanne

Anonymous said...

I so share this sentiment, especially in regards to my parents and maternal grandmother. Still miss them daily!

Anonymous said...

It has been 1 month and one day since we lost you, right before our own eyes, I hope you know we did all we could. Just knowing you changed my life, and losing you changed it all too much! I still find it hard to deal with... so commonly I go back to how it's not fair. But that doesn't help. I feel like I don't have the right to be open about how hard this has been for me bc if I hurt this much I can't imagine how your wife and children feel. But I will continue to talk to you and do what I know you would want me to do.... find peace and come to some sort of understanding, take care of mmyself and my family. I pray you know how much you are missed and will be forever in my heart!!!! R.I.P. Chris!!!!

Anonymous said...

Tha's true. I miss my dutiful brother who just celebrated his 50th birthday if he would have been alive, my grandmother who took care of me & my 6 siblings when my mother&father passed away, my grandfather who was my fan, my parents who died too soon, my paternal grandparents, my Aunt Coring&Aunt Tita who helped provided us when we were little. I miss them soooo much. :'( How I wish they were still here alive so I can repay not materially all those things they were given to me & my siblings when we became orphan at a very young age. We live you forever & ever. Praying for the repose of your souls. :'(

Anonymous said...

Miss you daddy. (PAPA EARL). Sure could use your kind voice, your soft advice.....your unconditional love, So lonely in this would without you. You were always there with a kind word even if just to call and say....JuJu. take the garbage out. At least I knew you were there and you cared. GOD. BLESS YOU. YOU HAVE DEFINITELY EARNED YOUR WINGS. LOVE YOU

Anonymous said...

Miss you Pop's. I miss your support, your love, your faith in me, trust in me and most of all your laughter and stories. My heart had not been the same since you left. I feel like a hole has been blown wide open and it stays in pain. I know you are better where you are. No more cancer, pain, suffering,and sadness, but here on earth we miss you every minute and second we breath. You were our true hero! I look forward to the day I am by your side again watching a great movie, Listening to great music and radio, or just sitting outside talking about anything and everything. I miss your POISTIVE TOUCH!!!

Anonymous said...

I miss my mom & dad and my 2 sisters who just recently passed away. They were my best friends <3

Anonymous said...

It's been five months now and I keep thinking the pain of losing you will ease but somehow it never does. You were and always will be my soul mate. I will love you forever. I know you are in a better place but I miss you so much. Save a place for me right beside you in eternity. We will be together again.

Anonymous said...

THOSE ARE MY EXACT SENTIMENTS I LOST MY HUSBAND TODAY 8MONTHS AGO AND THE PAIN SEEMS TO BE INCREASING. NO WORDS CAN EASE THE PAIN

Anonymous said...

I miss my husband so much. It will be 4 months tomorrow and I miss him as much today as I did when it happened. Sometimes I think it is getting better and then I have a day like today and I'm not sure. my only comfort is that you are in heaven and I will join you someday.

Anonymous said...

It's been almost 6 years since my friend of more than 35 years passed away. I still feel his presence in my life. Sometimes I feel as if he was the only one who ever accepted me unconditionally.

Anonymous said...

Today would have been our 52nd Anniversary but you are not here to celebrate it with me. We will be together again some day, but until then, I will miss and love you every day.

Anonymous said...

i lost my mom 10 months ago and my dad a month ago ,and this is killing me, my life has changed,i miss them so bad,its like being an orphan

Anonymous said...

my only sons! Chris in July and Jon in August died within 3 weeks of each other and left me heart broken, my darling boys i love you both so much...

Anonymous said...

Lost my husband 10 years ago and I hold him in my heart as much today as ever. Miss him as mush as the day he left. Think of him daily. Wish I could see that smile and tell him my problems. It is tough being alone after living and loving for years.

Anonymous said...

It is seven years and seven months since my husband of 25 years passed away. It is my birthday today, and it is the first time ever that I have been alone the night before my birthday and entering my "New Year" on my own. I wish I can take this empty and lonely feeling and just throw it far away!!! Life is for the living so why is it so difficult to bounce back and carry on? ..... as a rule I have come to terms with his passing, he will always occupy a part of my heart. Is it the fact that we know we are getting older, or because we believed we would retire together and start "living" - travelling, working in the garden, just loafing at the pool? What ever it is, I miss my lover, my friend, my husband.

Anonymous said...

I lost my Husband of 34 years 5 years ago this Christmas day and it hasn't gotten any easier. People tell you it get's easier with time but that is not true. I still cry for him everyday and miss him like it happened yesterday. I have not been able to celebrate Christmas since he's been gone. He was the only one who really knew me and loved me with no conditions. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing he is waiting for me in Heaven.

Anonymous said...

I write to you hoping you feel the love I am sending. It is so hard to move forward without you here mom. It has been 3 1/2 months that we watched you leave us physically but in our hearts and memory you will stay forever. You are with my dad now and he waited patiently for your arrival the same that I hope you do for me. I didn't realize how much this would hurt but in my heart it has torn me apart. I love you mom and dad!

Anonymous said...

My father passed away 14 1/2 years ago. I still remember the phone call from my step-mother like it just happened. I cried...I screamed...I fell to the floor. That was the worst day of my life. What calms me is what happened two days before. We were at church. He had not attended for awhile. Why he did that day, who knows. I was talking with a friend. He excused himself, gave me a kiss and said "I love you and I will see you later." Those were the last words he ever said to me. Three years later, my children and I were looking at a picture of him and I was telling them a story about Grandpap Gene. The youngest who was conceived 3 months after he passed said that she remembered him. I told her that she couldn't have as she wasn't around yet. She said, "I met him in Heaven when I was still in your belly." And years later, he still makes his presence know from time to time. I love you Dad...always did...always will. Until we meet again... "No tah hey"

Anonymous said...

It's been 13 years in November for Daddy ,and 9 years for Mom .I miss Mom so much she was my rock!

Anonymous said...

MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN DEAD 7 MONTHS.,AND I ALSO MISS HIM EVERY MINUTE OF EVERYDAY.THE NIGHTS ARE THE WORST.WHEN EVERYONE TELLS ME IT WILL GET BETTER,MY WONDER IS WHEN.WE WERE MARRIED 43YRS,NO KIDS,BUT A BEAUTFUL 16YR. OLD GOD-DAUGHTER THAT WE BOTH ADORE.SHE IS HURTING TOO,AND I TRY TO STAY STRONG FOR HER.WHEN SHE'S NOT AROUND ALL I DO IS CRY.GOD PLEASE HELP ME.

Anonymous said...

It's even tough to want to live sometime.I just have to believe in my heart that in God's time we will be together again one day.I will all ways love you,and miss you until that day my love.

Anonymous said...

It's even tough to want to live sometime.I just have to believe in my heart that in God's time we will be together again one day.I will all ways love you,and miss you until that day my love.

Anonymous said...

lost my husband and best friend dec.7th 2012.i am hurting so bad is life still worth living...never seen so much sadness since you left. it seems to stand out every where I go.lonely for your voice your friendship and your love...I miss you my babe .

Anonymous said...

Time changes with in its self but love stays the same through out time

FISHA said...

I miss my Fish so much that it's so hard to just move on with my life without him...he is my life and my happiness...I died with him the day he left me...im just waiting for the day we will meet again...I know he waits for me...SEE YOU LATER HONEY I LOVE YOU ETERNALLY.

Anonymous said...

My husband died 19 years ago. I still love him and miss him with all my heart. My son died 12 years ago and nothing can ever fill the holes in my heart.

Anonymous said...

Carol its been 10 yrs since you departed this life for the blessed life to come. In all these yrs ive waited for the pain to subside i have realized one certainty...this pain will never leave me. I even tryed to rest in the fact that well i guess i will get use to it. I cryed for you today, i cried for you yesterday, i'll cry for you tommorow. Im going to hurt till I die.

Anonymous said...

Been there done that in 1994. All I wanted to do or all I did is cry, cry, cry and like you nights were the worst. Everyone kept telling me it would get better as time goes on. What helped me the most was trying to get out more or try to do more read, crossword puzzles, or going to eat with friends being around people, even thro I didn't want to be. Jesus Christ will help you. Poor your heart out to him!

Anonymous said...

Lost my Dad 5 years ago,He was my best friend,It hurts now just like it did then.I miss you so bad! Love you forever and a day

Anonymous said...

September 23 2009. 4 years 1 day 19 hours ago. My Richard left. It is not a single bit easier today that the next day 4 years ago ... I MISS HIM.

Linda Kirvin said...

I know how you feel, my husband of almost 30 years passed away over 2 years ago and I have never been the same, my life has it was is gone. But you have to live and move on. it's the hardest thing in the world to take that one step alone, the sadness will be apart of your life, but make gladness a bigger part of your life, the happiness you shared together, the good memories, the happy times. I really and truly have been where you are. I'm praying for you.

Anonymous said...

I miss you Son, Only two and a half months ago we were laughing, telling jokes and carrying on like two kids in a candy store. I sure wish you were able to meet your Son. He looks just like you Joe. No more laughing and Joking, I mostly spend my days feeling sorry for myself and wish you were still here.

Anonymous said...

Reading your post is heartbreaking. I just couldn't imagine the pain. I lost my Son in July also. God Bless you and may he always give you comfort.

Anonymous said...

My partner died nearly two years ago still miss and love him so much.

Anonymous said...

I miss you so much. Eleven months have gone by. People told me it would not be an easy road. They were right. I miss you so much. I miss your voice. I miss seeing you walk through the room. I miss hearing you tell all the stories of your life and your childhood and of the war. You will always be a part of me. Wherever I go, whatever I do. You are still by my side, Babe. Miss you so very much.

Anonymous said...

My heart breaks for you. But I think you have quite a challenge for your life. Your grandson will never know his dad, except through you. And you are not promised tomorrow. To let his son know him, write about your experiences. Oh cant write well, then dictate or video tape it. It will be a priceless heritage for years to come.It will impart family values, character and love. Nothing can make up for your loss. Only replace some of the time you have left with lasting memories for his son. You are the only one that can.

Anonymous said...

It's been 15 years and I still miss you like it was yesterday. We had plans ! When does the hurt stop ? When do I stop reacting every time I hear someone call your name (a common name) across a room, or in the store. When do the things we had in common blend back into nothingness. I miss you. I hurt from missing you. I need you. I wasn't ready to lose you ! I never would have been ready. I guess the hurt I feel means I am still alive.

Anonymous said...

You are in my thoughts. Keep pictures around for his son to recognize him. Teach him to say daddy. No age is too young for this. Thru him your son lives. Enjoy that connection because nobody can take that away.

Anonymous said...

18 weeks ago today My daring husband passed, i miss him so much and am not coping well. I keep getting told to move on and get over it, that is impossible.

Anonymous said...

You were only 26 years old when you left us 1 month ago, I have shed so many tears, I think about u all the time , I still think your still here then I realise your not and its crushing my heart more than words can say, I miss you dear brother love ur sister.
Until we meet again R I P <3 xxxxx

Anonymous said...

There were so many missing the day of the reunion picnic at the farm ~ Grandpa and Grandma, Mom and Dad, Steve, Uncle Cliff and all the other uncles and aunts and cousins who have passed on. But those of us who remain, shared our bread, our fellowship, our memories. And ....maybe all our loved ones who have left this world WERE there with us, after all . Maybe they were the gentle breezes that whispered through the oak trees, that day, the bright rays of sunshine that warmed the fields of corn nearby, the fluttering of doves' wings taking flight, the calm hush before our prayers caught the Light . I miss you all .... each and every one.

Anonymous said...

Jesse, I would give anything to see you onw more time, to hear your laugh onw more time, to feel your hugs and your brutal truth. I will always love you lil big bro. If I ever got that one more I'd never let you go. Miss you so much. Rest in Paradise with the Almighty King....

Anonymous said...

It will be 9 years the 13th of October since I lost my husband...he died the night before our 32nd wedding anniversary. Time does ease the pain...but it can never take away the memories & the Love we shared. Sometimes at night I dream he is still here with me..I will always love you..

Anonymous said...

My dad also passed away a month ago on august 22nd to be exact. His condition, especially his passing came to such a surprise. A situation in which we thought was going to be a simple surgery to recovery ended up being a week of anxiouty to him never comming home or saying our last goodbye, but rather confronting his loss. My life hss changed tremendously, I miss his unconditionsl love, his advise, his hugs and kisses. It hurts me to see my mothet in so much pain, but now always find the time to be with her and never leave her alone in order for her not to feel the emptyness in their house. I miss you so much daddy and know we will reunite again one day.

Anonymous said...

My husband died suddenly almost 3 years ago. Nothing has changed the ways I feel.I am just making a new life for myself without him. We were together 44 plus years so not thinking of him would be impossible. Life goes on,I know,but the pain remains as the previous post said. I dream he is still with me and wake up confused when he is not.

babyblues_1953 said...

Your marine friend you tried so hard to find, found me through your website today. Wish you two could have had time together before going home. Hwe was so close.I miss you so much.I do appreciate all_ you were for me in life. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

21 months since my husband passed.
3 years since my Mom passed and 14 months since my father passed.
My children are all far away and for the first time in my life I feel like I have nothing worth while to do. I have started drinking more to kill the pain and really don't care when people fuss at me to stop that behavior. It numbs my pain and loneliness.
sleeping is the hardest part, because I know I will wake up and have to feel the pain all over again. the daily phone calls with my Mom are what I miss most from her. My husbands crazy sense of humor and how he made me laugh every day even while battling cancer. My Dad gave me all my life advice. Now I have to do it alone and feel like I always make th wrong decision because i haven't talked to him first. Yes, they all had very important parts in my life.the world feels full of strangers now. No one loves you like your family. I have to carry on for my children, even far away I know they still need me too. I pray for all of you who have lost your dear loves. We will survive and even have joy again. That is what they would want for us! <3

Anonymous said...

My husband was 25 years old when he past away 37 years ago.There isn't a day that I don't think of him.Still hurts and I miss him so much.LOVE YOU ALWAYS!(until I die)

Anonymous said...

It's now 41 days since my husband Jeff has gone on to be with the Lord. Every day hurts. I'm not getting any better.

ff4a20c8-56b1-11e1-9713-000bcdcb471e said...

My husband of 38 years and 9 months was killed on the job 11 years, 1 month, and 12 days ago. It's true, time changes nothing but Honey that day all you did was go to work as you did everyday, We were planning your retirement and where we would be RVing to first....you left our home, drove thru that terrible storm, made it to work safely yet never made it off the job. I wish you hadn't been needed that Labor Day....time changes nothing, your death changed everything. I'm only half the woman I was until that day the other half if with you. I love you my darling, I still feel guilty though about keeping your wedding ring but Honey I needed that part of you, still do and still need to wear mine and yours. No, my wedding ring is still on my finger where you put it it'll stay there and when we are together again you can have yours back. I'll love you forever, my Sweetheart, best friend, father of our child, and my lover. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Anonymous said...

Almost 7 months and it still hurts like if it was the day i found out u were gone :,(

Anonymous said...

It has been a year and 8 months when I was away with my college team on the day you slipped away so peacefully. My eyes still fill with tears and it hurts so much not to hear your voice again. I miss the warm comfort of your arms and it hurts to wake up every morning and you are not there on my left which you always slept. I go to bed with your picture right beside me in our bed, what helps me now is that I have taken GOD to be my saviour. I will LOVE you always and we will meet again in heaven.

Anonymous said...

10 months today I lost you. Miss and love you so much Mum ♡

Anonymous said...

God bless you. We also lost our only 2 sons in 1987 in an accident, ages 15 & 17. All these years later we still miss them everyday and wonder what life would have been like now if we had been allowed to keep them here.

Anonymous said...

My husband of 20 years passed away five years ago. Our daughter was in 2nd grade. He had cancer, I knew that his life expectancy would be shortened. He was always so invincible, I refused to consider the possibility of him not beating it. He tried to tell me. I am remarried, but I miss him so much. It still feels like an ache in my soul. I know that he is in a better place....

Anonymous said...

6 years ago my only child left and went to heaven- at first I had to force my self to say she's dead or she died, sometimes it is still difficult to say she's gone. I love my beautiful girl and I miss her so every much. She was my baby, my little girl, my only child. My love has grown and will continue to grow for her. She touched so many people during her short time on this earth; all who knew her loved her for her kindness and understanding or the little extra things she did for them-all who knew her will never forget her just as I will never forget the love and happiness she brought to me she was truly my gift from God! I tell people honor her by carrying out things she did for them; if it was a simple card or a phone call to see how you were, honor her by doing the same for someone - send a card or make a call- spend a little extra time for someone who really might need a friend or simply nice gesture. In other words give to others what made my daughter special to you and she will live forever in all of our hearts.

Anonymous said...

I had a brother who was my best friend but had his issues. He died one year ago. We were like twins and we laughed all the time. I had to ask him to leave my home as his living with us was straining my marriage. One week after he left, he died of a bad heart. I still feel guilty. He had no one else.

Anonymous said...

41 days is not very long. I lost a brother with whom I was very close and it has been a year. I still miss him. We were best friends.

Anonymous said...

Hi Joe. Just wanted to say Hi. It's been a year now and I still miss you. I will always remember the fun we had going to the coffee shops and walking the dogs. I will always remember how much you loved that little dog and the little dog loved you. It was heartbreaking knowing when he got cancer and died. I know it broke your heart. We were all very sad. You know I loved you and you know why I did what I did. We will see each other again and we can walk with all those dogs again. Those days were some of the best of our lives. The dogs are waiting for us to get back together.. and we'll walk and laugh like we always did.

Anonymous said...

Dedicated to my gorgeous Carmelita, time will never ease the pain.

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Tammy Edwards said...

I will always love you Phillip...July 1 1956-2008 Your wife Tammy

Anonymous said...

I know the feeling of loosing some one we love because I have been through it too.loosing a father and a husband changed my life, its not easy but with God everything is possible,, memories and love for my dear father and husband will never fade away but we need to move on as life goes on.

Anonymous said...

it is so very hard. I lost my baby brother one year after losing my mom and I just can't seem to go on and it's been 32 months.

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Anonymous said...

Here's a hug. Your going to be OK just have a little faith.Your mom and baby brother are with you always so make them proud . Just take a deep breath and live !!! From someone who lost her son. I believe that I'll see him again.God Bless You.

Anonymous said...

O by the way when you see the number 22 that's my son giving you hope.I,ll be praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Oh my gosh....I feel the same way. I feel so lost without my mom since she passed on August 5th. I too watched her as she wilted away physically and I know she is in a better place but it is so hard. Everyone says that time will heal but she was my world....there is nothing like the love of a mother....she was always there for me unconditionally. My dad passed 8 years before and also waited for her arrival - I am sure they are happy to be together again and are with all my other family who have passed before them. My heart aches every day. I try to be strong but some days I just cry. It is so hard.....
I love you mom and dad and hope you are in a wonderful, peaceful place together now.

Anonymous said...

No one can tell you how long to grieve, how to grieve, etc. You know you can NEVER 'get over it'. As far as moving on, say prayers for every step you take if you have to and just remember that God DOES know better than we do. We can feel guilty, ask questions and never understand WHY but we can be assured He knows all!

Anonymous said...

im so sorry that's rough

Debbie said...

I miss Sean everyday. Remembering him telling his stories and the one he liked telling us was how his mom told him to go after some boys.that were starting problems with her he was just so proud that he was protecting her. He had so many stories to tell us. I sure do miss him a lot.

Anonymous said...

I have also been there. I hope this will help you. I finally realized that NOTHING I could do will ever change what happened. I realized that my life too is like a vapor and will be over before I know it. I realized that time is moving very fast and I will see him again because I believe Jesus completely paid our way into heaven. I realized that I want to make a difference while I'm here and help other people that are hurting too. Find others that need your love and help them in honor of those you miss so terribly.

Anonymous said...

Remembering our loved ones at holiday times are so very hard, you just start remembering the company of good friends that we shared the time with, but truly you are missed everyday it has been two years without hearing the sound of your voice the jokes that you told always kept you laughing but most of all just being around you this goes out to my AMH